My husband has a strange friend- she' a female- and she keeps in contact with him off and on throughout the years since they graduated high school ten years ago.
My husband has a lot of other female friends and they don't bother me. What concerns me with this friend is that she only seems to want to talk to my husband when she and her own boyfriend are having problems and she never accepts invitations to do things with the family, but is often inviting my husband to social gatherings and excluding his wife and children from the invitations.
My husband is respectful of his family and always declines the invitations and has started dodging her phone calls because he knows it bothers me.
My question is am I reading too much into this? I don't want to interfere with a friendship because I'm being silly or petty about something, but things just don't seem right to me.
2007-02-24 04:13:31 · 15 answers · asked by i_just_wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you have cause for concern. Especially when she doesn't invite you to accompany him to events! Your husband is very wise to turn her down. She isn't really a good friend with him if she excludes you and the family.
2007-02-24 04:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you married a good man. And he married a good woman.
He obviously cares a great deal about your feelings and respects you.
The girl is like a lot of my ex-girlfriends, she likes him because he has big shoulders and a soft heart. He's good for an emotional band-aid when SHE needs it. She probably has no designs on him, but who knows?
She bears watching. She doesn't respect your marriage and may decide she wants a little more. She might decide a little fling would make her boyfriend jealous.
Do Not Trust Her
But your husband seems honorable and deserving of your trust. And your trust in him is a credit to your character.
2007-02-24 04:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by srthompson01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweets u r not being silly or petty...It's perfectly alright to feel this way.U r lucky that your husband has understood the situation and doing what is only right.Honesty...is the base of all relationships.If your hubby's friend was that innocent then she would've invited u and the family along with your husband to the social gatherings.It's only better to avoid her so that she doesn't get any chances to cook up troubles in your beautiful family life.good luck:)
2007-02-24 04:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has taken it upon himself to decline all of her invitations and not to speak to her, it sounds like they aren't very good friends anyway and he respects you and wants to make you happy. It doesn't sound like they have a "friendship" anyway. I wouldn't read anything into this except for that your husband loves and respects you. You are not being silly or petty.
2007-02-24 04:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who invites a married (knowing both of you) man to an outing without yours certainly not a friend of yours. You have to give your husband scores knowing this bothers you. Now that he has started avoiding the calls she probably will lay off a bit however, eventually your husband will most likely have to deal with it. Personally I would be concerned, not on his part but on yours, as you are asking what are her motives. I think you know the answer.
2007-02-24 04:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband stopped dodging her calls, that is a good start.
Yes, any person not including the entire family in an invitation, has different intentions with those encounters.
NO!! you are not reading too much into this, you actually caught on and you have sort of nipped it in the bud.
2007-02-24 04:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Elka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT bothers you and you feel like there's something going on. It's your marriage and you have all the rights to find out or dig into to their relationship whether its only friendship or something else.
2007-02-24 04:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should send a letter or call to this woman and tell her that unless she is willing to include the whole family in her "friendship" with YOUR husband then you have to wonder what kind of friend she is. I know if that were me in her shoes I would want to meet you and the kids of my "good friend" and enjoy my friends happiness. It does sound like she is up to no good. You sound like a really understanding wife and in this situation I agree with you. This is one friendship that I would interfere with.
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