My ex and I left it on a bad note. I wanted him to hurt just as bad as he made me feel. But after our breakup I did the crying and the "why" and left him messages. The break up was shocking and he reacted very coldly. The more I called him, the more he turned me away. Anyhow, he was at fault for the breakup in so many ways. I feel for what he has done he should be ashamed. Anyhow, I have cutt off all contact with him. I have not called him at all. Its been a month. My question is does time make someone think about how cruel thier behavior was? Does me not being there crying and wanting him to confront me, and just plain ignoring him,like he does not exist...will this make him relaize what a dirtbag he really is?
2007-02-24 04:09:16 · 8 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
BTW- he kept ignoring me and it killed me. But I felt he really didnt care about me anymore. I dont want him back, I just wanted some answers from him. Its been some time and I have just completely stopped trying and am focusing on myself.
2007-02-24 04:10:44 · update #1
It is normal to go through a "grieving" period after any breakup, and if you don't, you will never benefit from the breakup. Some of this might include some self-blame and should. Relationships rarely fail only because one person is at fault. Usually, both people are wrong about some part of the relationship. If nothing else, you chose or allowed him into your life, which you should accept blame for. Accept the faults of him and yourself, learn from it, and move on. You should be worrying about you and what you can do different in the next relationship and throw him out with yesterday's garbage.
Now, stop beating on the ex and yourself. Finish the grieving and move on.
Dump the trash and start enjoying life. Living in the past is the LAST thing you should be doing. Is he hurt? Who cares?
And finally, if you really want revenge, go out and have a good time. I don't mean just tonight. I mean for the rest of your life. As as the Klingons state, "Revenge is a dish best served cold" :-) The fact that you are having such a good time and good life without him in it in any manner, shape or form, is the best way to "payback" if he is really concerned. And if he is not, you are stilll moving on with your life.
2007-02-24 04:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by JD_in_FL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person will only change when they have been confronted with and realize that their negative behavior is hurting them.
Many people never come to that realization and go through life making the same mistakes over and over again.
There is nothing you can say or do to "make" him realize how cruel he has been. You are only hurting yourself by constantly "picking the scab" of your break-up.
Move on with your life, find positives to fill up the hole left by him, examine your own actions to learn from them.
You are only responsible for yourself and no one else.
Good Luck
2007-02-24 04:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he is the one that was in the wrong, and if you think he doesnt care about you, then he wont care if you are ignoring him, and he wont think about what he has done. He'll just put it behind him and move on, and i think you need to do the same.
It's good that you're concentrating on yourself.
2007-02-24 04:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Fairy Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'd rather get called every name in the book than that silent treatment crap
2007-02-24 04:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by BAARAAACK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he couldn't really give a toss. he's probably enjoying all the attention. move on girl, that would probably bother him more.
2007-02-24 04:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep repeating yourself - LET IT & HIM GO! Your not going to get any answers from him so create your own.
2007-02-24 04:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by MJR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if the person being ignored is male... 'cause he probably doesn't care anyway....
2007-02-24 04:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋