What are the consequences if you destroy them? Or, if you forgive them?
2007-02-24 04:05:20 · 24 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Forgiveness is not for the person who is being forgiven, it is for the forgiver. Carrying around a grudge is a heavy burden to bear, it is very bad for you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. While you are stewing over whatever the other person did to wrong you, they are going on their merry way! Do you think that they care that you are still mad a month, a year, or 10 years later? Of course not! So who is being harmed? Hate is not only bad for you, it is an enormous waste of time and energy. I have noticed that anything I could do to get revenge on someone pales in comparison to what eventually happens to them if I just sit back and watch. Let it go, and let the universe get revenge- believe me, it always does.
2007-02-24 04:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Susan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that since an enemies goal is to hurt you and destroy you, that by forgiving them you are denying them their goal. I would think that ultimately you would destroy them through the act of forgiveness.
2007-02-24 04:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by dragonoid5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends why they're the enemy. If they're an enemy because they are in the process of harming you, then you respond with "fight or flight". If you fight, you choose the appropriate battle field (you don't "shoot" when you should "sue")
If they're the enemy for a lesser reason, and are not harming you, you simply ignore them.
Forgive them or not after you act to minimize their impact on your life. But my rule for forgiveness is that the perp must: be apologetic, provide restitution if they caused damage, and show correction to prevent future repeat of the act. Most "enemies" are not prepared to do that. Forgiving an enemy with less than that simply invites a repeat to oneself or another. That's why every major philosophy and religion requires contrition as a condition of forgiveness.
2007-02-24 05:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by freebird 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about you love them?
This love that I'm talking about has nothing to do with forgiveness and forgetting, not even with destruction. Just ask yourself:
How would you like to make an enemy?
How would you like to be destroyed?
How would you like to be forgiven?
How would you like to be forgotten?
Good luck with that!0!
2007-02-24 04:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. If you destroy them, you will end up in jail. If you forgive them it can't hurt. But whats the difference how you deal with them? It is better to know who your enemy is, so you can steer clear of him
2007-02-24 05:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive your enemies, then that is better then destroying them, for they do not expect it nor know how to deal with it.
2007-02-24 05:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by sarabelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might just be my personality, but I find it much easier to forgive people than to hold a grudge. Holding a grudge is too hard on the soul. It is easier to just forgive and forget for me, and realize that some people are just inferior beings and not worth the time of day.
2007-02-24 04:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by AmandaVP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive them, it says it in the bible itself to forgive all enemies! Love your enemies just as much as yourself.
2007-02-24 04:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love my enemies because they have been blinded by the most greatest "lie" ever in human history. Besides, Father in heaven would then forgive my transgressions as well. If i do not. then i will never be his special {son}
2007-02-24 04:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by romaniascott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive them, but do not allow them to hurt you. They will destroy themselves by their own destructive thinking and behavior.
2007-02-24 04:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by peskylisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋