My boyfriend has been stressed out with his job lately. He asked me to give him some space to sort his situation out. He explained to me that he does not feel well at his job right now and he needs to look for a new one but he needs to focus. The thing is I have become needy of him, telling him that I don't feel special and we are loosing each other. We should meet 2 weeks later. Yesterday evening I sent him a message again telling him about our relationship, he said he honestly does not have the energy to deal with this right now and now he is upset. What should I do? Should I text him and tell him I am sorry or should I leave him alone? Why is he silent now?
2007-02-24 03:52:50 · 4 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been in your boyfriend's shoes and really job related stress can be frustrating and really damage a relationship. I understand that he also feels bad that he cannot focus on the relationship you have together.
However, this is not fair for you. If he wants to bottle himself inside and ruin not only his career but everything else in his life, you are not obliged to join him for the ride.
You have no reason to tell him you are sorry. What have you done but show genuine interest in your relationship?
I think you should tell him that if he has ANY interest in preserving your relationship, he should try to make some time for the two of you.
No matter how much stress he has, if he can't make time for you then you are dealing with a person who later on in the relationship will not give you the place you deserve in his life.
I understand being swamped by problems, but part of being in a relationship is sharing these problems.
I know this might sound harsh, but if he can't share his problems with you, perhaps he's just to selfish to share anything with you.
Everyone says communication is the base of a relationship. I do believe that and if you wish to have any success in your relationship I advise you to try and tell him your needs and that you discuss his own and you reach a fair agreement.
Otherwise maybe this is a sign you should move on.
Good luck.
2007-02-24 04:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being stressed out with the job is normal, but thats not an excuse to ignore you. y'd be with you in the first place? to be in a relationship both has chose to confide in each other, to share all the ups and downs, to give hope and share their lives together. all you can do now is try to talk to him and make him understand that u need his care and attention if he still thinks that you're just bugging him its better to move on or let him be until he's stable again (god knows when!). all jobs are stressful but i dont see the bf's ignoring their gf's or asking for space if so, i then can say all the gf's wudnt want their bf to work hahaha....
2007-02-24 12:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by ZaZa b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but I would leave him alone. Find ways to occupy your time, keep busy. If he really loves you, he will realize how much he misses you and needs you. A lot of guys just want to deal with stuff on their own, no matter how much we girls want to be there to help them or just for support. Don't ask me why this is, I know it is frustrating. Hey, maybe I should ask that question on here. Just be strong and give him time to snap out of it. If he doesn't then you have to take another look at just how strong the relationship is.
2007-02-24 12:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dump him, if he doesn't find time for you, you don't deserve him
2007-02-24 12:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋