How can i trust my hubby?

Question

Our was the love marriage and we have completed 5 yrs of it.There was a girl in our neighbour whose brother was my husbands ver good friend and my hubby had very good terms with that family and i had even talked to that family ever. After 2 mnths of our marriage i came to know that girl likes my hubby earlier before my marriage and also my man tell me abt this to me before my marriage.From that day i started feeling insecure abt my relation when my hubby goes to their home and when i talk to him over this he says that girl was his very good friend and sister too.But 3 to 4 times i saw that girl p.number on my hubby phone and we have fight over it and my man says there was no such affair b/w them.The very recent thing was that my man go to that girl engagement party and comes late night with their family and that girl came in my hubby's car along with his cousin brother who was sitting at back seat.Why that girl won't come in other cars even when there were 4-5 cars with their relatives

Answer 1

If it was that girl's engagement party, your husband may be telling you the truth! The fact that he told you about it tells me that he just wanted you to know so that you wouldn't think otherwise. If he seems to love you and want you, then don't worry about it. If he doesn't want sex, then that may be another story! Love is not about suspicions, it is about trust and communication and love.

Answer 2

I say, don't make a big thing out of it. She's engaged. Unless she's planning to be unfaithful to her new husband, you have nothing to worry about. Especially if she's moving away. That might be one reason they're spending a little more time together, now, because she will not be close by after the marriage.

If he's not given you any reason to suspect unfaithfulness before now, don't borrow trouble by being paranoid and suspicious. Don't let insecurity blind you to the possibilites for happiness. Be the sweet lady he fell in love with in the first place. Do what you did to win his heart, and you will not be insecure because he will respond to you. He will prove himself worthy of you. But if you start down the path of suspicion and poisonous attitudes and thinking, it can destroy a good marriage.

I've been on the receiving end of this and I know it isn't good when a husband cheats. I know the heartache. I know the signs. I also know that if he was cheating on you there would not have been anybody else in that car with him. So he made a phone call or two. He could have been talking to anybody, on her phone. Sounds to me like he's the brother's friend more so than anything. Why mess that up when there isn't any real substantiation? It was a party. Maybe your husband wasn't as drunk as the other drivers or maybe the others were going further away. They did have a chaperone. That is the most important thing.

Answer 3

After reading your entire story, I think you are over reacting, her brother was his very good friend, your hubby looks at her at a very good friend and like a sister to him? Nothing wrong with that, I have grown up with many " inherited family members", and that just means because you've had such a tight friendship with them, the entire family becomes an extended part of your own. He looks at this girl as his extended part of his family, and now she's engaged to be married and because of the closeness he feels toward the family, went to her engagement party. As far as him giving her a ride and sitting in the front seat, while the cousin sat in the back, I believe that's a respect thing to allow the girl to sit in the front. As far as why she didn't chose to ride with other relatives, maybe she wasn't comfortable enough to do that and felt more comfortable with your hubby and cousin. I really wouldn't worry yourself over this at all, maybe you should start to look at her as an extended family member of yours as well, after all, if your hubby feels that way, doesn't that make her part of your family too?

Answer 4

i had a case like that and some girls just don't respect the fact that he's taken already. for me i would not let my hubby going over there anymore, cause even though your husband don't have any thing to do with her, i believe she still does. and the part with her in your hubbys car and in the passengers side, i'd get really tick off, cause she's supposed to be engaged already it should be her brother next to your hubby.

Answer 5

Stop Over Reacting...

Answer 6

hun i dont care what he say be very cautious becase if there is nothing fishey going on he would of asked you to come to the party and she would be in her relatives car not his