Did anyone ever wish they had never met their partner?

Question

If I think that every day and been doing so for the last five years, do you reckon it's time to leave?

Answer 1

Have you examined why you feel this way about him/her? Are you angry with your partner for a good reason, or a minor one...and what kinds of support systems do you have in place for whatever decision you come to? Have you explored other options first, such as counselling, either by yourself, or with your partner? Are there children involved? Have you read any self-help books on relationships to discover what agenda you have in this drama? I know of a very good one, that helped me with a similar situation: "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" and there was a workbook in it that helped me answer quite a few questions about my relationship and why we even hooked up in the beginning. One of the crucial questions, to me, was, "Was there ever a time when you were together that everything was just perfect between you?"

We were together for the wrong reasons, and once I realized that, I ended up leaving, after 28 years together. But this may or may not be the answer for you, and it's cold and lonely in the deep dark night of singlehood, at times, although you may find a new relationship with ease...just be careful not to repeat your past mistakes - learn from them, and move on!

I can remember praying for SOMETHING to PLEASE take him away from me, at the end of things...and while I couldn't find it within myself to face him and and walk away without really strong fuel, something happened in his life to cause this to occur....and it was tough, but I had to save myself in the end.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Not the one I am with now, no. I've never been so happy in my life. But I wish very much that I'd never met my ex. Deceitful, spiteful, nasty, dishonest . . . but I blame myself - I should have walked away right at the beginning and how I wish I had. But my partner says there's no point having regrets and we are better off concentrating on the future. We're happy together. And yes if you've been feeling like that for so long I suspect it may be time for you to put into effect what you seem to want to happen.

I think the crucial point you need to consider is - what will you miss if you leave him? If it's a house or money, or anything material - leave him. No-one is worth staying with for that. If it's him you'd miss, then think twice.

Answer 3

Five years is a long time, do you intend spending the next five years, ten years etc feeling like this, think about it. If not then either go it alone or think seriously about your next partner and make sure he ticks all your boxes and is 100% your soul mate and partner. Good luck, true love is hard to find for some people, including me.

Answer 4

Definately I am with someone I have thought that of for the last 5 years as well. It has been hell !!!!! The only thing holding me back is we have 2 children together and I have 2 other kids so it would be hard for me to be a single mom of 4. So I say if you have nothing holding you there get the hell out why you can !!!!!

Answer 5

Sometimes =)
Yeah if you feel like that all the time it is time to leave I reckon especially after five years!

Answer 6

a million. relationship is haraam in Islam yet you're able to correctly known that throughout the adventure that your examining Islam. So i might wreck up with him and then no longer touch him returned till you determine to flow with the aid of with the marriage. what's incorrect with getting married now till he doens't have the financial means to help you? 2. some families place custom earlier faith and a few born Muslims seem down on non-Muslims or reverts. they think of their extra ideal then reverts via fact they have been born into Islam, while reverts tend to be previous non-Muslims. it rather is incorrect. additionally some persons are racist, there are even racists in Islam and it rather is likewise haraam. Haraam=forbidden. Hala=lawful. do you understand that once you revert to Islam (Insha Allah) that your toddlers will could be raised Muslim? have you ever reported the topic of Polygamy being hala in Islam and reported the undeniable fact that your husband ought to Islamically take yet another spouse if he chooses to accomplish that via fact it rather is what Allah (SWT) has allowed for Muslim adult adult males? How does he experience approximately you working or going to varsity (in the adventure that your no longer in college already)? those are the varieties of questions you're able to ask him earlier getting married. you do no longer point out what race this guy or his family individuals are. If she isn't accepting you via fact your a various race then she is, there is a few thing interior the Qur'an that declares that no Arab is better to a non-Arab, no white individual is better to a black guy, etc. That Allah (SWT) created all races equivalent. i might ask the guy to discover that verse interior the Qur'an and coach it to his mom.

Answer 7

If you are not married then leave. If you are married then you owe at least honesty to him. Tell him how you feel. Dress it up anyway you like but tell him. Then discuss it for as long as is necessary to come to an agreement. If you can sort it out then fine. If you can't sort it out then you will both walk away in one piece. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time to end things. You hit that comfy zone of knowing what's good and bad, next thing you know 5 years go by. Wish you good luck.

Answer 9

definately, i think the way to tell is to look back over the relationship, if you remember more bad than good then it's time to move on. it's always hard, especially in a long-term relationship, but it will get easier and if you're anything like me, i imagine you'll have a whole new lease of life.

whatever you choose, be happy.x

Answer 10

I have felt like that many,many times especially when I was still married to my first husband. If you feel that it is time to go then leave. I know it can be hard at times and harder when you don't like your partner.