my wife isn't talking to me .....again !!!!?

Question

Should I be annoyed or just grateful that she is keeping quiet??

Answer 1

it depends on what you did? have you done it before? are you a pain in her a**? maybe she's not talking to you cause she's sick of saying the same thing over and over and over again.
if its her problem be annoyed if its yours be grateful and learn from your mistakes.

lol!! can you tell that i'm pissed at my husband?!

Answer 2

Relationships where the partners do not talk about thier problems are the ones in the most trouble. Everything is being pent up inside and resentments build on both sides.

I think you should try and talk with your wife at a time when you are both calm enough to discuss things.

Often it can be tempting to wait around for the other person to change. But, if both partners keep doing this than nothing changes. Think about what you can do to make your relationship better (I like that idea about getting her some flowers and saying "let's talk") and when she sees that you are making the relationship a priority maybe she will reciprocate.

Answer 3

In my experience,saying "we need to talk" usually signals the end,so unless you are kk with that,avoid that flower idea.
If your wife is truly a mature and confident adult,then her silence must surely mean she has a major and life threatening illness and you must act quickly to get her to a place of intensive care before it is too late.
If on the other hand,she is about 12,which is around about the normal age for this sort of behaviour,then maybe you should invite her folks over to witness her in a "Do-Do-Baggy Diggy"mood.
Bending over in front of her,making as if to pick up her bottom lip from the floor and replace it is a reciprocal preteen solution that should appeal to her obviously under devoloped sense of adulthood.

Or,you could just carry on with your own life without reference to her in any way and see how quickly she comes round.At that point,after shedding your assets and building your liabilities,you might care to inform her of your intention to clear off because you are fed up with living with a retard.

I realise that there might actually be a valid reason for her not speaking to you though.In this case,you are screwed because it could be your fault.Tell her you accept her apology,and that you love her as much,if not more, than your other girlfriend.That would be the one you are just off out to meet.

Answer 4

Well that all depends does she get that way alot and is she a total nag? If so be grateful about it some women are just born to nag!!!! Have a nice quiet day :)

Answer 5

Obviously her silence has a pay off, or she would not continue to use it as a coping mechanism. What do you do when she does not talk to you? How do you become on speaking terms again? The answers to these questions will reveal her payoff. Sometimes silence is golden. Meaning sometimes its better to say nothing. However problems rarely get solved in silence.

Answer 6

Maybe you should, depends on how happy she makes you otherwise. If your in love with her maybe a chat over a bottle would be good. Or if not then grateful yes for the peace!!

Answer 7

I personally don't do this but one of my friends hasn't spoken one word to her husband in over three months. They've been married nearly 30 years and phases like this are normal for them. Unfortunately in a close couple it is normal to bounce off each other. That is to say when life throws an issue they kick it around between the two of them. To an outside observer it looks like pure childishness but it's one person's way of safely expressing the inner child we all have. I should let your wife carry on with it. She's obviously expressing herself within the context of a safe relationship. Realise that she behaves this way with you because she feels secure enough to do it and to let you see the child within. Just accept it, she'll recover when she feels like it.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be either annoyed or grateful. Do your marriage a favour and find out why she's angry and upset and do something to right the situation.

Answer 9

To be honest you should ask her why she continues to give you the silent treatment and then you can fix the problem. If you cannot fix it then both try to meet half way - please try as the divorce rates are high enough and something must be bothering her and you by the sounds of it.

Answer 10

Enjoy the peace. Do everything she won't allow you to do normally as if she isn't talking to you she can't shout at you.