I have not cheated on my wife, but a girl at work wants me bad and has made it quite known....I have conversed with her through email and text....with tons of sexual inuendos.....but things have gotten out of hand....almost incriminating......however I do no want to hurt my (pregnant) wife....I have 2 beautiful children and expectin the third in a few months.
I am going to tell this girl that things have gone to far and I need to back off and stop the flirting. I have pre written an email to my wife explaining all that has happened so that in the event this girl wants to get me in trouble i have it documented...
should i give her the email now???
help
2007-02-24 03:07:42 · 15 answers · asked by scriptseeker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, involve your wife at this point.
If you do, I will hunt you down and stuff your ears with jelly beans.
Your wife has enough to deal with at this time. There is a point when "letting it all hang out" is more damaging than silence. I do not propose hypocrisy. Keep the email if you want. Hide it just in case. But for now, leave her out of this. Stop projecting fear regarding this woman. She sounds like a predator and will sense it. What will be will be. Deal with things as they arise. Your fretting so comes from the guilt you feel knowing you have done wrong.
As for the girl, grow up and act like the otherwise responsible sounding husband/father that you are. I understand how these things happen, so I am not passing judgment, but just tell this little hussy that is enough. The fact that she knows you are married speaks lowly of her character. You might be right to be cautious.
However, all you can do is stop immediately and make sure this woman "gets" it. Let her know you have realized what is at stake and you do not wish to go there. Period. Instead of innuendos, start talking to her about little Bobby's soccer game or how baby Mary kept you up all night teething. Become a real dad involved totally with your kids and she should get the picture.
You have a lot invested in what sounds to be a beautiful young family. God has blessed you with work, health and family. Don't blow it. Do you have any idea how many people would LOVE to be living a life like that? Don't risk it.
Telling your wife would be a risk at this time. Hormones and all that stuff. Not to mention the natural urge to whap you one.
It is good you came to your senses before you did something you might REALLY regret! Now go and be a daddy and husband and enjoy your life.
2007-02-24 06:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to this other girl first, you dont want to get your wife all worked up. If you can get out of this without your wife knowing would be the best thing to do. If you tell your wife it may make her think it is ok for her to do the same thing, and you know any girl can get a guy in a snap. Since she is pregnant and all hormonal she might try some John Bobbit on you...(Joke).
2007-02-24 03:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell your wife. Stop the flirting immediately and tell that girl at work that you are done. That's the best you can do. In the future, try to be smarter and don't ruin the family you have built and try to realize and appreciate your wife and family and think of how hard it was to build this family and how much love you have for your wife and kids before doing something like that ever again.
Good Luck!
2007-02-24 03:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by M. Shaaban 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in way over your head! E-mails are as incriminating as writing it on paper-it's all traceable!
I can't believe you didn't have some form of illicit thought or you would have nipped it in the bud as the old saying goes!
Right now you're best bet is to either ask the "girl" to cease and desist or possibly move on to another job getting as far away from her as possible-cutting all communication-like new e-mail address, new phone numbers, etc!
I don't think I would involve my wife when she might be able to obtain some of those incriminating e-mails you sent the other lady! Won't go over in your favor should divorce court become an option!!!
2007-02-24 03:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
strong work dude you are screwed. Yeah, trying to cover your tracks right now with some lame half truth email is probably not the right answer. Hopefully, you have a VERY understanding wife, but even still she will probably be quite devestated. You may actually want to pre-emptively start talking to a marriage counselor to help you walk through the damage of your emotional affair. Good luck you are going to need it.
2007-02-24 03:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a husband, start acting like one. Tell the other it's
over plain and simple and don't ever disrespect your wife
again as you have two children and another one on the
way. If you need to flirt, do it in front of your wife and
grow up and leave the other girlies alone. Start playing the
part of a husband and take care of your three kids and
wife as they are the ones who really love you.
2007-02-24 14:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely the definition of a man. It makes me happy to hear there are still good guys out there, along with my Fiance. Your wife can either get upset from just hearing that you were going along with it for so long or she could really understand that you confronted her about it before anything did happen, she could get scared and then tend to almost all of your needs to make sure she keeps you. Think about it...would you want her to tell you if the roles were reversed?
2007-02-24 03:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even have any idea how to "cheat" for best answer, unless they have several accounts and go in and vote their answer into best answer... but they will catch you anyway and suspend them all. So what's the point of doing that? Answer easy questions, and build up the points the right way in the first place, the points don't get you anything anyway, it's all about asking and answering.
2016-03-28 22:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't cheat? what with all the email and text. once you go like that with some other girl thats already cheating. you should of thought of them before things got out of hand. even though you have every detail documented, your at fault too, so you better talk to her in person, then emailing her cause then shed know that you are for real and if she can be forgiving then your lucky...
2007-02-24 03:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should sit down in tell your wife face to face before you show her that email im sorry but did you think of all this after you did what you did the damage is already done.and only you know your wife so i think you should make that decision
2007-02-24 03:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋