lesbians get caught.....?

Question

ok so me and my girlfriend were in my room and we were "messing" around and my parents kind of walked in and saw and flipped. they dont except the fact that im lesbian and i just want them to except me and my girlfriend....i would like positve comments and things that will help me or dont bother writting me

Answer 1

too late

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Answer 2

Okay, well them seeing you "messing around," as you put it is going to put a major roadblock on them accepting your sexuality. So, you may just want to sit down and talk to them. What they saw will probably never fully erase from their minds, however you do have the opportunity to really talk with them now that your sexuality is in the open, if you catch my drift.

First of all, the worst thing you can do is yell at them. That will just ruin you relationship with them and they will cease to respect you, no matter what. You're at a very fragile point with your relationship with them and it isn't fair if you "attack" them, especially when you are the victim in this situation.

Visualize the problem. Okay so your parents don't like the fact that your gay. That's understandable. Now, you need them to either accept you or ignore the issue, right? One way to do this may be to call up your local Youth Pride, and see if they have a person your parents could talk to about having a gay kid, etc. As corny or ridiculous as that may sound, first of all you don't know if it will work unless you try and, secondly, they may just need to better understand what you are going through. They are your parents after all and more than likely they care about you more than you know.

If that doesn't work, or they simply won't do it, you may just want to sit down and talk to them yourself. Ask them why they are against or not supportive of your sexuality and try to clear up any doubts or questions that they might have. Help them to understand that you aren't going to come up with a boyfriend next Friday night and that they are going to have to live with that reality.

Next, you may want to bring your girlfriend over for dinner, or simply do something with your family and your girlfriend. Don't shove her in their faces by kissing her at the dinner table or something, just make her appear normal like any other friend, etc., that you may bring home. This will help them learn to see past her sexuality, and yours, and accept both of you together.

Also, put what happened in the past and keep it there. Expect your parents to do the same in an effort to keep the peace and help everyone move forward.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Many parents that find out their son or daughter is gay, believe that they did something wrong to make you that way. Reassure them that they are good, loving parents, and they didn't do anything wrong. That people are born gay. Sit down and talk them if you can, if not write them a letter, and maybe this will help them understand. Give them time to come to acceptance. Tell them you will respect them, and apologize not for being gay, but for disrespecting their home.

Answer 4

You are who you are. However you live in their house so you have to show yourself to be responsible in following their rules. Being lesbian is only a part of your make up. The rest involve being an honourable human being and daughter.

So you won't marry a guy and have kids... they will never like that but they will get used to it for they (I imagine) only want for your happiness.

Answer 5

my parents never accept me being a lesbian either but that's who i am,i cant just go out with a man while i dont have any feelings for him,i like girls,i love my girlfriend but at the same time i love my parents so when am around them i just respect that they dont like it so i dont do anythin with my girlfriend infront of them like holding her hand etc...

Answer 6

You don't mention how old you are but I assume that you still live with your parents.
As long as you live with them, it is disrespectful to fool around in their house regardless of whom you are fooling around with (guy or girl).
If you really want them to respect you and your relationship, you need to act like it. Don't rub their noses in it.
If you are old enough, move out. If you are still a kid, then you'll have to earn their respect, but you may never get their approval.

Answer 7

maybe try to be as discreet as possible and give them time to come to terms with it, dont flaunt it in their faces

Answer 8

You need to ignore your parents, i do. If they get in my business, i tell them to f**k off! But you should sit them down and explain to them your sexual orientation. Good Luck!