well, I think I'm marrying him for the wrong reasons, it's not that I hate him, I like him, but I don't really wanna marry him
but I'm just marrying him for the wrong reasons........I don't even know what's my question.....there is no question, I just wanted to tell someone and breaaaaaaaaaaaathe lol.
2007-02-24 02:52:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're not married yet, how is it too late to tell him?
You can call it off/postpone it. If you don't have a concrete reason or don't know how to say it then be vague. No one can force you to marry them or force you to tell them why.
Postpone it and work it out, either with or without him.
2007-02-24 03:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for people to have doubts before their wedding. But have you honestly ever though that you could spend the rest of your life with this person? If you did at the beginning, how did this change for you? Do you love somebody else or are you just not in love with him? It is much better to break off an engagement than to get a divorce. I would really examine how you feel about him now and try to make a decision. If anything postpone the wedding until you can figure it out.
2007-02-24 10:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know that your marrying this guy for the wrong reasons then why marry him? You will only end up hurting yourself and him especially in the process. If you don't love this guy and truly want to spend the rest of your life with him then you should at least end the engagement. You don't want to toy with some ones emotions. I think you should consider taking some time out and think about what you really want to do so you don't end up hurting anyone. Good luck!
2007-02-24 10:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you are marrying him for the wrong reasons you need to discuss it with him. I am speaking from experience and have been married for 4 years and married for the wrong reasons and now am trying to get out of it, but struggling to do so because I do not want to hurt or and never did. You need to have open communication with the significant other for things to work.
2007-02-24 10:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Oppie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you have walked down the aisle and said i do it is too late. A nanosecond before that is not too late. Be prepared for the incredible devestating consequences if you marry for the wrong reasons. You will hurt yourself, him, his parents and the rest of his family, your family, possibly your kid(s) if you get pregnant(its been known to happen to married couples.) All of this pain will be caused because you are too afraid to be honest with someone you probably care about on some level. I mean hell you are planning a wedding. BE HONEST, he does not deserve some woman who does not love him. He is probably a good guy you are about to destroy with your dishonesty, good job
2007-02-24 11:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, get outta there quick! You've already taken care of the easiest part...you've realized that you do or do not wanna marry this guy. In your case, you know you don't. So, why are you still hanging around? Marriage is a really really REALLY long time to be with someone. You have the opportunity to escape right now, and it's alot harder to escape later. I hope you tell him before it's too late.
2007-02-24 11:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u truly dont love the person u married why did u get married in the first reason?be honest with him and tell him how u feel and u dont love him and dont string him along that is not fair either. do u guys have kids where u prganut? was u push in marriage by family?when u marry someone their are promsies u make and u promise that person in front of god and family and friends to love honor and cherish each other. why did u make a marriage a joke?
2007-02-24 10:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I'm going to say is this: If you can call off the wedding all together, then I very strongly urge you to do so. Marrying someone just for the wrong reasons is just plain WRONG!
2007-02-24 11:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is suppose to be the most sacred gift you have in your life. It is taken for granted and divorce is so common. Don't be a divorce statistic. Don't marry the guy. The guilt you feel now will be nothing like the emptiness of a loveless marriage.
2007-02-24 10:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by jessica s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him DO NOT MARRY him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I speak from experiance. I married my husband because I had his baby and now 19 years latter I'm getting a divorce. I love the children he has given me but the pain we are all now going through is not worth it. Mostly it is the pain of the kids that hurts me. It is easier to marry than it is to divorce.
2007-02-24 11:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ravensgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋