2007-02-24 02:44:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hmm. You will mostly get simple Yeses or nos. The short answer is: we don't know for sure. I know a lot of my gay/lesbian/bi friends would kick my tail for that, but the scienfic answer is we don't know. What I DO know is that when I was a teenager, I grew up not knowing even one gay person (of course there were, but I didn't know). When I've tried to be intimate with a man, it was uncomfortable and disgusting despite the fact that I (still, as a friend) love the man. It felt like the sexual chemicals in my body were repulsed by his. With women, it feels natural and my chemicals react accordingly. I have never talked to an LGBT who feels they chose this for themselves. It's just the way it feels. There is an excellent book called Is It a Choice? by Eric Marcus. It's frank answers by LGBT about the ways that we feel. Thank you for your interest.
2007-02-24 05:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Emily H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know without a doubt that that I am not sexually attracted to men, and for me to "be gay" would definitely be a choice. I have always been attracted to the opposite sex, and that was never a choice I had to make. And I'm not going to go experimenting to find out if that could change. So I wonder why the same would not be true for gays. Since I have no choice as to my sexual preference, why should I think that those with different orientations have a choice in the matter?
If someone contends that they were always attracted to the same sex, we should give them the benefit of the doubt. Apart from that, if a person has sexual relations with a member of the same sex, then they have made a choice. So I suggest that being attracted to the same sex is not necessarily a choice, but having a homosexual relationship is a choice. Then you have to answer the question, "is being homosexual defined by what you do or by what you want?" I am attracted to women, but since I am not married I don't have sex. Am I still heterosexual? If someone were attracted to their own sex but refrained from having sexual relations, would they be homosexual?
One last question I wish everyone would think about. Could you stop being attracted to whichever sex you are attracted to by choice?
2007-02-24 18:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by celebduath 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Why do you think someone would choose to be discriminated against like that? Being gay is just as much of a choice as being straight: IT ISN'T.
2007-02-24 11:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Busta 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No definately not, do you ever remember a time when you thought to yourself, right then shall i be gay or straight. You just become either way as part of a natural progression as you get older, you dont actively decide who you are going to be attracted to, it just happens.
2007-02-24 14:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by hillpip_123 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being gay? No.
Acting on my gay desires and attractions? Yes.
2007-02-24 12:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No more than being straight is a choice.
2007-02-24 22:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
when i was 4yrs old i always felt that am attracted to females,i always used to see my future with a female but never with a man,at that time i thought i was the only one in the whole world who thinks that way specially after my mom shouted at me soo much when i told her i like my female friend...what am sayin is i never chose to be a lesbian
2007-02-24 10:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No Honey, it's not.
You've been on answers.yahoo for over a month now, you seem to have missed that this question is posted several times each day.
2007-02-24 11:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by castle h 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
no u can't chose to be gay u will know if u are gay
2007-02-24 11:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-02-24 11:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by karen_03625 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋