okay this question's a bit embarrassing...
I'm not planning on it any time soon, but when you have sex for the first time, do you automatically know what to do? obviously i know what the aim is, but does it just come naturally? I know for girls it hurts, but is it difficult or complicated to actually do it the first time?
P.S.: I know I think about these things too much, but I can't help it, it's the way I am, lol.
2007-02-24 02:43:54 · 13 answers · asked by lovely_yellow_sky 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
yeah it comes pretty natural. it helped that the bloke i lost my v plates to was experienced, so i pretty much just laid back and thought of england!! for your first time dont think about moves/positions etc because it hurts way too much! just concentrate on being close to the person you are 'doing it' with. because of course, he should be kinda special.
2007-02-25 04:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my first time hunni, and i was so nervous, there were so many things going through my mind - so i didnt enjoy it. I love the person, and im now married to him. But answereing your question - ys it comes naturally. dont plan anything, it will just happen and just go with the flow, and relaxing is the best thing to do for the first few times until you get used to it. The first time for me was a little painful, but only for like 5 seconds, so its completely bareable. Also I bled a little afterwards, but this is normal for most girls too. Please use protecion though hunni, even if the guy doesnt want to. Its cool to use it. I was 15 when i lost my virginity (im 18 now) and dont regret using protection. Its the best thing you can do until you go on the pill and trust your partner. Good luck hunni xxxx
2007-02-24 04:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by sarahscholtz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reccommend doing other things with your partner sexually for a longish period of time before actually attempting intercourse, because then you will be more familiar with the way your bodies work and how to please the other person. Yes, it can be difficult the first time. Especially if the guy is also inexperienced, it can be difficult to find a good angle for penetration, etc. and you may be too tight at first.
2007-02-25 17:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good place to start is with yourself, experiment & see what turns you on. It shouldn't have to hurt if the boy knows what he is doing & is gentle with you, making sure you're ready. There is nothing wrong with thinking about your first time. You can also talk with your girlfriend, who have have had a sexual experience.
You can also read up & check out some books on the subject.
2007-02-25 15:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first... make sure you want to do it and you're not feeling pressurised, you're with the right person - someone who really cares for you and respects you and you've sorted out the right protection. Then just go with the flow, take your time, relax, don't take it too seriously (you can laugh you know!!) and you'll both find your way. Just don't go rushing into it or you'll regret it and won't enjoy it - take it from one who knows!! xx
2007-02-24 08:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by joksand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kinda complicated...but do what u feel is right for you and what feels good. make sure you trust the guy and that you use protection...cuz if you're not relaxed it aint gonna feel so good. yes it does come naturally but u do have to experiment a bit before u know what's really right. nah u dont think about it too much...totally normal. lots of people think about it cuz they dont want it to go wrong and they wanna experience the best. anyway i dunno if that was really useful...lol. good luck...be safe =P xx
2007-02-24 06:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by charlii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and do what ever u feel like doing, if he's done it before he can take control until u get comfortable every1 has to start some where good luck and it does hurt a bit xx
2007-02-24 07:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by BscHons 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts apparently if your hymen hasnt already been broken from physical activity but it just comes naturally.It's more of a guy thing,they worry the most.Just relax and enjoy it.if you worry your muscles tense up making it even more painful.Yes i have had sex but just once,i'm not exactly 'experienced' but just RELAX that's the main thing.
2007-02-24 04:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by snow_patrol_lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect the boy will know what to do.
I'm intrigued to know why your last sentence ends with the every hackneyed "Laugh out loud" tag. If you're THAT much of a virgin you won't be laughing............
2007-02-24 03:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it comes kinda naturally
if you feel you want more help try reading up on things or asking someone close too you for ideas and advice
2007-02-24 03:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Natasha G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋