How do I spice things up??

Question

My wife is a straight laced baptist......and I have strong sexual desires.....I want to do all kinds of crazy things......

not to be too graphic....but c*mshots(Facials) and role playing.....but I have talked to her about this and she is not up for it.

....I have a very hard time with this, becuase I could probably go somewhere else to fulfill this desire....but I wouldnt want to ruin my family over a whim.

How can I get her to become more Sexual???? HELLLPPP!!!

Answer 1

Ease into things (I'd like to say I have never met any woman who wanted a "facial") and try soft things, such as different locations and positions.

Answer 2

You need to tell her that it is not a bad thing and that women who at least try sometimes end up enjoying it. She needs to know that women all over the world are doing these things in the bedroom with their man and are very happy. Somewhere along the line she has been misinformed about such things and thiks its dirty. Be honest and tell her. Try taking her out and having a few drinks to relax her and when she gets really buzzed go home and put on a "sex movie" and get her into it. But don't let her know your plan or she will be on gaurd right away.

Answer 3

Your wife probably has some fantasies, go with hers and ask for some of yours a little later in the game. If you want to see 'facials' watch a porn, because not many woman are willing to do that without getting paid.

Answer 4

That's a tough one. Obviously, communication is the key. BTW, we've been happily married 36 years.

How long have you been married? How often do you enjoy sex together? Is she more the type to do it with the lights off?

One of the most important elements of a successful, long-term relationship is compromise. Without it, you can't work out your problems and issues without a lot of emotional trauma. Compromise is the "give and take" in a relationship. It's marital negotiation.

Sex is a wonderful, beautiful thing, meant to be enjoyed by married couples, and whatever they do in the privacy of their own home (short of pain and blood-letting or extreme degradation) is fair game and nobody else'e business.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with role playing (dress-up) games. I tend to think that facials are a bit disgusting for any female. I know, there's nothing wrong with them, but something like that should definitely be a woman's choice.

Short of facials, I think it would only be fair that your wife "meet you in the middle" in some way.

She's certainly entitled to her religious beliefs, but you are also entitled to a normal, healthy sex life, and she needs to understand this.

Your desires and fantasies are not strange or perverted in any way.

If you cannot reach any kind of compromise with her, it would not be wrong to suggest professional counseling.

Let me share a favorite excerpt with you, and I would encourage you to show it to her, as well.

Author David Shaw wrote in "The Pleasure Police" (1996),“Maybe it’s precisely because sex is so overpowering, so all-consuming, so capable of not only overwhelming but of obliterating all else, that the extreme religionists among us are so opposed to it, and so appalled by it.”

“Besides, sex is about losing control, about abandoning oneself to the moment.” “Most very religious people seem to think that the only 'other' to whom one should ever abandon oneself is God...”

Answer 5

Your wanting her to be turned on by your turn ons. Find out what makes her the cummm loving whore you want her to be. She has her desires, its just getting her to talk about them so you know when she is so heated up that she would f**k the first thing in sight, you might be ok with acting out your facial thing. Make sure you get her to that level of excitment, or your facial will be a one timer, and you'll get punished over and over again for it.

Answer 6

Tell her that she is not satisfying your needs. In a marriage, if a spouse is not meeting the sexual needs of another, the marriage will most likely fail.

Sex is not the only thing in a marriage, but just like an automobile, gas isn't the only thing needed to drive a car. But you aren't going anywhere without it. Sex makes marriages go.

Answer 7

look min to getting her some books or videos that are aimed at women . "Sinclair Intimacy Institute " has a series of educational DVDs on the subjuct that are very tastefully done , they are educational not porno . She needs to losen up in the bed room if she wants to keep you and you have to make her realize that in a non threating way . Best of luck

Answer 8

Yes, ask her what she likes. If that doesn't help, try to find some sort of compromise. Maybe she's really not into what you like, but is willing to do other things. Talk about it and see if you can come up with a solution that you're both comfortable with.

Answer 9

well don't only think about your fantasies
she might have some to, do you think

do a few little different things to her that will probably gratify her and then maybe she will do the same to you

I mean you can't be the only one enjoying
the sexual acts

Answer 10

Since you asked earlier if you should cheat on her and you said she's pregnant.......don't you think you could at least wait until she's had the child and time to recuperate? For goodness sake, hate to say this but get some cheap porn and use your hand.