He always finds time to go out with the guys and says he friends pay for him. For Valentines day he was very late our friends boyfriend paid for the entire dinner. He is always crying about how broke he is. I feel he is taking advantage of my goodness. I m tired of paying for everything. I dont expect the guy to pay every time but he still should be a gentleman and charm her at least for Valentines day.
2007-02-24 02:25:03 · 17 answers · asked by Muneca 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Short answer: yes.
It sounds like a chronic problem, and you're right, at the very least for Valentine's day he should have made an effort to spend a little on his girlfriend.
2007-02-24 18:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But, let me explain why. It is not only because of the situation you outlined for us, but your perception of it as well.
Love is the key. If you truly loved him you would not care that "you paid all the time." Likewise, if he loved you he would make sure that he put into the relationship all he had and not consider the loss of it.
Both of you seem to be fixed on money and that is not a relationship. I cannot say what it is, but it is not love.
By the way. I am married 13 years now and aside from our dating I have not ever bought my wife a VD gift. It is a contrivance of the marketing industry. But, I do get her gifts throughout the year. She makes more money than I, but it is in our bank and neither of us think of it as "His or Hers" but ours. She also does the bills and that is for the better as she is way more capable. If she wishes to go out and buy something for herself I could care less as I love her and wish for her and our children to have their desires. But, we have to also make sure we have enough money to pay the bills. I trust her discernment implicitly.
My only draw back is that it is hard to surprise her. I keep nothing back all goes in our funds. Side jobs, birthdays, whatever. So, if I wish to get her something I have to ask if we have enough in the bank or else risk bouncing a bill. We have tried to do them together but have not been very good at it. Both of us are at fault in this.
I hope this long winded answer helps you see two things. First yes dump him and secondly what form real love takes and finally it is out there for you and you should go ever so cautiously so that you too may enjoy the wonders of it.
2007-02-24 02:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by crimthann69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Valentine's day is the only day a year that is set aside for lovers. He was late? He whines about being broke? Don't get me wrong. I'd never leave someone over just money. But I'd dump him faster than a Tuesday afternoon trash bucket.
2007-02-24 02:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Konswayla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a job, right? If he knows how to handle his money wisely he shouldn't be broke all the time.
This will never change if you keep paying for stuff. Whether he makes more or less money than you is not the issue.
The issue is do you want to spend any more time and effort on someone who is this lackadaisical about his finances, his friends, and his girlfriend?
2007-02-24 02:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his sorry low-life butt. I say he has no class or something. He should not date if he can't pay to take his woman out for dinner, and especially on Valentines Day. What a jerk. And he ought to feel bad. He deserves it. Get outta that while the getting is good gurl.
2007-02-24 06:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww poor you....anways i just think that he's using you lolz not lying since you said all those stuff but if he really loves you then he should be embarrased or shame for using your money all the time like that, if he still looks normal all the time i bet he's using you and he goes to his friends and says 'I MAKE MY ***** BUY EVEYRTHING FOR ME' sorry not trying to be rude but this is what most people do and i dont think he will ever be gentleman for you or charmer but i think he just want's to have fun with you sorry baby it's just a luck.....but if he loves you for sure and would sacrifice most of the thing for you then i think he's poor(no moneY) and he came late in party or whatever because he dont have money....I WOULD DUMP HIS *** IN THE BIN IF HE DOES IT ALL THE TIME BECAUSE I BET EVERYONE WOULD HAVE LOTS OF MONEY ONE DAY!!!
2007-02-24 02:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by slash 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah i would dump him, not because he is broke, because he expects you to pay. And to show up late on Valentines day is just cruel! DUMP HIM
2007-02-25 09:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by smiling.hearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is taking advantage of you if you have to buy every thing. he just wants a free meal and someone to claim as a girlfriend or family. and i don't think his friends pay for him all the time. ask him what he does with the money he earns, and get rid of him.
2007-02-25 00:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by pinkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes I would! not because of the money! but by him not spending time with me, because of money!
but I make a little less money than my fiance, and he pays dinners, etc.
don't keep thinking that he's the only man on earth! I know that you aren't happy with him, you pay for him, and plus he keeps "crying" about it?! Gosh he can get a job and stop crying for your money!
2007-02-24 02:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated and had children with one, that went for 6 years and never changed. I got out and now I have money. He is a taker and not a giver, you don't need that. Find an equal. :)
2007-02-24 02:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋