Okay I went to this track meet at some highschool for Varsity and kinda didn't tell my dad i was going that day, i didnt even know i was going. so i was at the track meet and i called him around 5:30 and told him i was at a track meet. Then he got mad asking me why i didn't tell him earlier because i cam back home around nine. so he was mad and fussing at me when i got home saying that anything i say he will never trust me. Then he said i'm not ever playing sports again and i run track also but im on jv but i told him i had a track on monday here comes thursday and i think he forgot about it so hes mad about that too. and i for got to give him the schedule because Thursday was my first track meet. I really really want to run track again but I don't know how to change his mind. he is a really mean and strict person. so i have no clue how i can convince him for me to run track again. So if you have any suggestions i would really appreciate it if you could share them with me. Thanks!
2007-02-24 02:09:10 · 10 answers · asked by vera_dafinest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing to do is make a calendar (print one out on the computer) with all your meets, practices, etc and give it to him. Sit him down while you're both calm and tell him how much track means to you, why you want to do it, and how it will benefit your life. Mention that it looks good on a college application, and you're also required to keep your grades up so you can continue to participate. Then, before every major meet or practise, gently remind him: "Hey, I'll be home late tomorrrow, I have practise." Maybe get a cell phone so you can call him and let him know what time you'll be home. You might think this is overkill, but if he can trust you to check in and let him know what's going on, then he'll trust you to be out later.
2007-02-24 02:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a dick is not illegal. And while he might be being horribly obnoxious, you getting violent is not helping things. Being violent IS illegal. Yo complain about his breaking stuff? You break stuff too: a TV and a glass door. You throw things. You kicked a whole in the wall. You attacked your step dad by your own admission. That's called assault. You complain he tackled you, even though you admit you were physically out of control. He is wrong that you don't have any rights. However, I'm not at all sure whatever it was you were talking about is a "right." You are legally under his supervision unless he is criminally abusive or neglectful, in which case you could get the law involved. You complain "they start the problem." Are you sure? You're a teen, and you're angry. Teens tend to blame everything on their parents. Are they, perhaps, being strict with you because you are out of control? Breaking TVs and kicking holes in walls is NOT normal teenage behavior. You want to blame your behavior on them. Maybe they're trying to bring discipline back to an increasingly violent child. I'm not meaning to put all the blame back on you, but I do suggest you take a very hard look at your own part in all of this, rather than simply painting yourself the victim.
2016-05-24 05:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing the whole point. Your Dad is trying to teach you to be responsible and to have consideration for others. These are extremely valuable tools that you need to get on in life. If you want him to change his mind, you need to prove to him that you are trying to improve. If this is really important to you, as I suspect it is, it is more important to your dad that you learn and master the skills he is trying to instill in you. I'M sorry to say that I don't see him as mean at all, rather, he is an extremely caring father that you should be proud to have watching out for you. I'm not suggesting that you are at fault here at all, I think your behaviour is pretty normal. That doesn't mean you can't learn and become a better person. It's important for you to realize that sucking up to your Dad, might have short term benefits. Getting involved in what he is trying to teach you will last a lifetime and lead to you getting more and more responsibilities and privileges.
2007-02-24 02:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hurt and dissappointed thats all. I Don't think he meant what he said. It was said in an angry moment. I think if you go to your dad now when he has had time to think about things, and tell him how sorry you are for not being truthful with him, and let him know you do love to run and you will be diciplined, honest and consistant in your efforts. I think he will change his mind. He wants the best for you. He loves you very much. He wants you to be successful. He has a soft spot in his heart for his girl and he wants to mend things too. Go talk to him, it will all be okay.
2007-02-24 02:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do something to earn his trust again.Don't worry, after a while, everything will all be back to normal. Tell your dad that it's something you love and it's really important to you. The punishment will be less harsher and he'll probably let you do track after a week or something.
2007-02-24 02:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Swini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sports teaches responsibity (showing up and practicing) and lets you learn how to deal w/adversity (in life things are going to go poorly, like losing) and committment (something employers and family respect). If he is a strict person dont go at him with the emotion angle. Talk like an adult and apologize for keeping secrets. "I just knew you would respect it and want you to" is a good line. Use it.
2007-02-24 02:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much, just say, "dad can i talk to you?" act tatally serious and tell him that you love track, and its hard for you not to be on the team. be very sinsere, and say you understand y he feels this way, and it will never happen again. maybe you could start tearing up a little too! good luck!*
2007-02-24 02:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jenni C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell your dad that sports will help you in many ways in life, such as for college cred or socially or mentally. Also, you could tell him that you promise to be more responsible and make him a deal. Hope this helps!
2007-02-24 02:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by alix c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want you to lay around and get fat and lazy. He shouldn't deprive you of activities that are good for you for punishment for your disobedience. I recommend that you show him the answers to your question.
2007-02-24 02:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by spackler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize then learn to be more responsible about planning and communicating you activities.
2007-02-24 02:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋