My girlfriend and I used to be together for 7 years. I love her so much. I asked her to marry me for only 3+ times. All of them no. I am 30, and she is 28. and now, she broke up with me since she wasn't ready for marriage. How do I get her back? I am really depressed without her. She's the most greatest person in my life.
2007-02-24 02:07:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Respect her wishes and let her be. Loving a person is accepting the for who they are and respecting their feelings. Getting married and sharing your life with someone is a big step, obviously she is not ready to make that commitment. Some space and time will determine whether you guys will end up together or not.
2007-02-24 02:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is a change. Usually it is the the girl that wants to get married. I don't understand why she is so against this at your age she should be ready. I am curious to know why she broke up with you? You don't really give enough detail on how things have gone or how they were going before she broke up with you, in order to give any honest help. I wish that you would repost your question with more information so that I could give an honest answer. Janet
2007-02-24 02:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It's time to grow up. If she had been wanting to marry you, you would have had a hard time getting through a month without her dropping hints about getting married.
By pushing her, you were saying I don't care if you're interested in sharing a life with me, I'm interested in keeping you in my life, and that's all that matters. You need to stop paying attention to what you want and start paying attention to what the woman wants.
If you call her and send flowers and all that other silly crap you see in romantic movies, you will flatter her, but she won't respect you... because you don't respect her and what she wants, and that's a big part of the reason you are in the situation you are in already.
Leave her alone.
2007-02-24 02:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, sociologically things have changed. We want marraige now...they have been trained by their moms (who have had unsettling marraiges) to not trust men or be 'oppressed' by us. If anything marraige is a team. There is no captain, therefore no oppression. But whatever, anyway I just had a gf like that and dumped that ****. Go out and get a new one. It hurts but honestly, I felt the same kind of emotional turmoil you did but ...they are a dime a dozen. Not this one buddy! Yeah. Go find another one and find out how wrong you are. And "most greatest" isnt a word.
2007-02-24 02:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After seven years, you must have never "swept her off her feet".
Ask yourself why no 3 times. She wanted you around for security but was never satisfied you were " the one". Be up front in asking her what it would take to prove to her you are the one man she cannot live without. If the answer is not there then consider moving on.
2007-02-24 02:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show her that she's not important to you. Neediness is a huge turn off for women, and if your telling her your lost with out her, or showing her that your lost without her, then you are succeeding in pushing her even further away. If you want her to be a part of your life, show her your life is fine and dandy with her or with out her. You are probably making her feel like you are her responsibility instead of an companion.
2007-02-24 02:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw why don't you call her send her e-mails try to talk to her. Tell her how much you love her and how you are depressed without her and that your willing to wait until she is ready get a flowers red flowers alot chocolate make her feel special like she is loved.
Jewel T
2007-02-24 02:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do. Do not beg or cry in front of her. Women do not like hearing men beg. Just give her some time, if she really loves you she will come back to you.
2007-02-24 04:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by arario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT TAKES TIME FOR THE BIG STEP OF MARRIAGE! AND ONLY TIME WILL TELL????? LEAVE HER ALONE AND LET HER MAKE UP HER OWN MIND! YOU KEEP BOTHERING HER AND IT WILL ONLY PUSH HER AWAY>>>>> AND IF SHE KEEPS SAYING NO! THEN FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO WILL SAY "YES" BECAUSE SHE WASNT THE ONE FOR YOU ,IF SHE HAS DECIDESD TO KEEP TURNING YOU DOWN!! SORRY BUT, 3 STRICKES YOUR OUT!
2007-02-24 02:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by BUTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she don't want you whether it hurts or not you need to let her go and get some one who will be with you no matter what i know it's not easy for i'm seprated and going threw heartbreak my self since me and my husband is apart i've had bad moments but if they don't want us we have to move on
2007-02-24 02:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋