i am a step mom of 2 step sons and i feel i get a long great with my step son that 12 years old.but my step son that is 9 is very rude to me and shows me no respect and he allways tells me u are not my mom i dont have to listen to u my mom said.i have talk to his mom and she said they dont have to listen to me.well it is like this how i feel i dont want to be their mother they have one but i am adult they need to respect me because i am adult. i also have 2 kids of my own that dont see their dad at all.my kids are really good to their step dad and they respect him.
2007-02-24 01:55:12 · 9 answers · asked by crystal w 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my husband does tells kids to respect me i have with my new husband for 2 years. and i do things with boys but if the boy does not respect me why should i give dam. the ex wife is just mad because i am a good person and my husband and i have what she dont have we own are own home i think the ex wife should not bad mouth in front of the kids .because the ex wife is a child her self and the kids copy what they see. my husband does disciplne the chrilden
2007-02-24 02:39:36 · update #1
I love these kind of questions. Here's what I did with my step son. I stopped giving a dam. I talked to other step moms like myself for advice and they all said the same thing. I got one concept with kids and I don't care if their mine or not-- your going to mind me and I don't care if ya like me or not. Those kids liked me even more the meaner I got. They know when you care, don't worry about hurting their feelings.
2007-02-24 02:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs to get involved here too. I'm finding that kids are becoming more rude and disrespectful all the time. As a foster parent we deal with some of the same type of thing. If you are a good mom to those kids then you deserve the respect. He needs discipline and the only way he will get that is both you and your husband work together. Good luck and love those kids.
2007-02-24 10:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a step mom and i used to say the same things. But after a while I finally warmed up to my step mom. Just give it a little bit more time. It took me 3 years to start to understand/ get to know my "new" mom.
2007-02-24 10:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Brielle aka Ellecy! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to do things with the 9yo that he enjoys. Maybe if you become friends with him things will get better. You need to tell your husband to tell his ex-wife that she should insist her child respect ALL adults. That he does not have a right to be rude to you just because you're married to his dad.
2007-02-24 10:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes children can not except a step mom because of many reason. try to love them the way you love yours children.
but it's true that there is no alternate of a real mom to a child.
2007-02-24 10:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Cindarella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Daddy needs to tell the boy to respect you. His mother won't. Why should she? It's definately his job. His house. His rules. He wouldn't act that way unless his father allowed it.
2007-02-24 09:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment. he s probably having a hard time with the whole thing. good luck
cheers
2007-02-24 10:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let them get used to u try to bond then comes the discipline
2007-02-24 09:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he will get over it
2007-02-24 13:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lily ! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋