please answer! help! he proposed sincerely! we've been together since we we're 9... please?! I love another guy! but my parents want him for me!
2007-02-24 01:49:08 · 81 answers · asked by HiP_ChiCk! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why don't you guys thinks about study and prepare yourself for the future. I think marriage is a big compromise and is for grown up adults.
2007-02-24 01:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you cant get married that young, most laws state that the female has to be at least 16 with the parents consent, and the male has to be 18. But every state has a different law. But im sure that no one can be married that young. That is way to young, you dont even know what love is. If adults have a hard time with marriage how is a 13 year old child supposed to handle it. So no its not okay to get married that young. You still have alot of growing up to do, and a life to live. You dont want your Sr. Prom to come around and not be able to go because your at home with your husband taking care of your kids, do you?
2007-02-24 02:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by smwat03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today society no.
There are some strange parents who will push for a marriage but only a parent can sign over a right to have their 13 year old married. You are too young to already have a guy in mind to with for the rest of your life. Can you really see yourself old and married in wheelchairs, using depends diapers and having old people problems with this guy. I'm sure you havent thought that far. At 13, you need to focus on yourself. You dont need to be tied down to a guy right now. Have fun and be a teenager for christs sake! Dont worry about adult matters and serious things like marriage right now!
2007-02-24 02:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are too young to get married at the age of 13. If that guy proposed you seriously and your parents are ok with him then you should both go out for another 7 or 8 years before getting married! Do you think that guy is mature enough to earn a living for both of you or the children coming up or do you think you are mature enough to earn a living? or both of you are mature enough to earn together and take care of the kids coming up?? Well, The legal age for marriage in most countries is 18 and in most countries you are still considered as a MINOR! You both may get into trouble as well as both of your parents may get in trouble if the Government comes to know about the Underage marriage! Well, he proposed seriously and if you think he is OK or the one you are ready to spend your entire life with then say you agree to marry him but ater quite some time of at least 6 more years! And if you don't like him, then tell them of the guy you love! Or the best approach to find if the guy who proposed you is sincere is to tell him of your real love and note his reaction. If he truly Loves you he will honor your Love and will say you that if you are happy, I am happy too, but certainly he wouldn't give up and he will probably want to be your friend ad if is not sincere, he will be angry and will tell your parents about it and he will behave as if he has the authority over you. If he behaves this way at first and later on comed to apologize to you but before telling your parents, than certainly, he is sincere in his propasal. But even though you are considered a minor, your parents marry you to someone, than yeah, your parents are in legal trouble the guy who marries you is in legal trouble as well the guys parents and YOU yourself is in Legal trouble too! The best option is to wait till you turn 18 and then marry!
Well, I hope this advice will help you!
2007-02-24 03:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kashif Khundmiri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it is not ok for a 13 year old to get married. you need to wait until you are 18. if you have been together since you were 9 then you will be able to wait a few more years. just stay together and do what you normally do. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-24 04:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in the United States? If so, then in most states the legal age to get married is 18. Some states allow for younger people to marry with parental consent. Personally, I think that it is not a good idea. I will give you some examples from my own life and life of people I know/grew up with: I dated a guy when I was 17-19 and I was sure I was in love. He said he loved me too. He was my first, and the way I was raised, you were only to have sex with one person. After I had sex with him I thought that I was "sentenced" to marry him. He was not physically abusive, but he was verbally. I didn't see it until after HE broke up with me. I look back now and wonder how on Earth I could have allowed myself to be with him for 2 yrs! I later met a terrific guy (when I was 20) and we were totally crazy about each other. We were definately in love. But we were not meant for each other. There were too many things that we were polar opposites on - we would have never made it. I married my husband of 11 yrs when I was 25.
Some people I grew up with dated from the time she was in 8th grade until they got married (at age 19 for her), they had 3 kids together in a very short time afterward. They divorced less than 5 yrs after they got married and hate each other. They can barely be civil long enough to transfer kids on his weekends. They both now admit that they simply married too young, especially since they never dated anyone else.
Honey, at 13 you may think that you love him, and in many ways you probably do, but it is most likely not the "to death do us part" kind of love. Especially since you admit to having feelings for another guy. Do the mature thing and tell him, and your parents that you are too young to make a decision of such importance that will affect you for the rest of your life.
Oh, and another little bit of my life: The two guys that my parents liked the most of all the guys I dated, were the two that treated me the worst! Parents are not always the best judge of character when it comes to their daughters romantic interests.
2007-02-24 03:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by doodyfulls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so no not at all wait a few years hun you have time believe me if you really love this guy and he loves you he will wait for you and you for him it will work out if its meant tobe thats the hard lesson I myself am learning right now im 17 and will soon be graduating from high school I asked my life long guy friend to marry me a few months ago he said mabye but he is wanting to go to college first so theres always going to be things happening change in your life your only 13 :)
2007-02-24 06:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are quit a few things that raise a red flag.1 YOU ARE 13. 2 you dont love him it doesnt matter if your 13 or 30 dont marry someone b/c its what someone else wants . 3do you seriously think you could go to school work pay bills take care of a home and possibly become a mother by 15
2007-02-24 02:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by lynnluvsbrett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No judge is going to let a 13 year old get married. You have to be 16 in most states with a parent's consent.
2007-02-24 02:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you can't know what true love is yet - you are WAY too young. You are still a child Wait another 10 to 15 YEARS.
I highly doubt that your parents want their 13 year old CHILD to get married
Also, DON'T START HAVING SEX UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED!!!! That would be an even bigger mistake!
2007-02-24 01:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really hoping this is a joke but...
No and most states won't allow a child (which you are) to get married even with parental consent until 16. If you loved each other that much, you can make it to 18 when you can sign for yourself.
But honestly, how exactly would you think you could support yourself?
2007-02-24 01:53:00 · answer #11 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋