my gf and I have been off and on for the past 5 years with numerous separations. She has had anger towards my kids and everytime we argue she throws very ugly things in my face about them. she gets very insulting and they have nothing to do with our argument. I think she is very jelous of them and cant accept them. I love my kids very much and am angered that anyone especially the one person who says loves me can say such awful things about them. she has one of her own and i never say anything bad about him in fact I have been nothing but supportive she in turn hasnt done much for mine. in past emergencies having to take one of my kids to the hospital she went to the movies instead, this hurt me very much. when they are sick not once does she ask how they are doing so i ask myself what am i doing with her. we recently broke up and i want to move on no matter how much it hurts, what do you think? is she a woman worth fighting for?
2007-02-24 01:43:03 · 14 answers · asked by kingkong 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Inside you know the answer, you are looking for someone to tell you. Well here it is. She is a selfish, selfcentered bi-ch. and you and your kids deserve better. Just think what your kids think when you stay with a woman like that! Any woman so cold hearted to go to the movies when her man is at the hospital with one of the kids is a poor excuse for a woman. Even if she were a friend she would have offered to go with you. And yes she is jealous and shouldn't be in a relationship with a man who has kids. There is a woman out there who will love you and your kids and be there for you when she is sappose to be without any question. It is going to hurt for awile but then you will see that it hurt more being in the relationship with the mean and nasty things she did and then you will be happy and wonder what took you so long to end it. You sound like a good man, there are allot of women out there looking for a good man and it will be her LOSS. Good luck and be strong, don't take her back!
2007-02-24 01:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a voice of experience I tell you this. When you love someone you love all facets of them. Your children are an extension of you. The fact that she would even use your children's shortcomings in an argument that doesn't have anything to do with them shows that she is very self-centered and has some deep-seated resentment to them. A relationship is supposed to get better with time. A relationship based on this situation will never flourish. My fiance' and I both have children from prior relationships and I love her children like my own and vice versa. You deserve someone who will love you and your kids the way you all need to be loved.
2007-02-24 02:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well i was in the same situation u were in????you need to leave i left i had 1 daughter at the time and he could have caredless about if she was ok when something happened...he is the same with his own daughter that i have...very self centered and just out right jealous of his own and mine....so i say this to you why would you be w/someone that the earth is suppose to revolve around....you cannot put your children on the back burner for this woman your kids didn't ask to be here where the woman is asking to be a part of your and yourKIDS life.....your kids and you are a packeged deal and if she can't except them as you except hers then she needs to be thrown away with the trash...because that is what she is.....sorry for being so blunt be i hate people like your and my x
2007-02-24 02:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do i think!! I think you stooped for thinking that the wicked witch of the west is worth fighting for . I'm a single dad and any woman comes to my house had better treat my kid good or she goes flying on her broom with a little help from my boot.
Do you really think i wont my kid to be miserable because i need a little hoochy koochy once in a wile . No way they better kiss his *** that's my blood there looking at .
2007-02-24 02:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i want to ask you the same question 'what in the world are you doing with her person like that" no no no leave her she doesn't deserve you if a man disrespect my kids like that even though i don't have any but whatever lol. I would leave him. You should move on obviously she doesn't like your kids and she is jealous of the attention you give them.
Jewel T
2007-02-24 02:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt let yourself be treated the way she has treated esp when you've been nothing but kind. But then here are some questions:
She is definitely jealous of your kids but ever thought why? Maybe she always have to compete for your attention? Why do you keep going back to her even if shes been nasty to you?
Love has its strange ways and its not about knowing what its worth, its knowing what makes you happy and complete.
2007-02-24 01:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by TOTALLY CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a very selfish person who can only think of herself. Definitely not a good long-term relationship, and definitely not someone you want to have around your kids! Let her go, and find someone who cares for you and can be a supportive person to your kids as well.
2007-02-24 01:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really, really is into you, she's not confusing. That's a truth.
On and off again? Is she a yo-yo or something? You gotta cut her loose or keep falling down that same, silly rabbit hole and having tea with the Mad Hatter.
I'm a bit concerened about your and your kids' self-esteem in that you put up with this and subject your kids to it too. Man, if you don't do it for yourself, do it for the kids. They don't need somebody around tearing down their self-esteem just because dad lost respect for himself and decided to be this whacko's whipping boy.
And remember, to have healthy self-confidence, you need to respect yourself and others and keep the company of others with healthy self-confidence.
2007-02-24 01:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not fit to be in children's lives in general, let alone youre own kids. Why would you allow someone like that in your life. Your kids come first! DO NOT FIGHT FOR HER!
2007-02-24 01:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love you ....love your kids....think about it....do you really want to be with a woman who could be so cold, callus and uncaring towards your children???? I think not....you all deserve better...good luck to you
2007-02-24 01:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋