I got married a year ago. Six months after I was married my husband cheated on me with another woman. I found out becuase of his weird behavior and her messages on the phone. He swears it was not sexual and simply conversational. The woman claimed she kissed him but would would not delve further. I stayed with him. Needless to say this has stuck with me and it is hard to really care for him anymore. Recently he started a search for his ex. She wrote him and the letter came to the house. She has sent pictures. They used to communicate by email and now by phone. When I am in the house the calls are short, however when I am not there the calls are hours long. I have not spoken to him about it because I am afraid of what I ll hear again and I hate the lies I fear that a marriage is over before it even had chance to start
2007-02-24 01:13:13 · 10 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's over....best face up and do what you have to do...he isn't interested in your marriage any longer.
2007-02-24 01:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not trying to give advice but at the very least you owe it to yourself and your husband to sit down and find out why he is interested in exploring relationships with other women. It may be that he is just plain lonely. You can be with someone in the same house and still feel lonely. Try and get to the root of why. You are his wife and should try to be his best friend also. That means taking the good with the bad and understanding him as the person he is and not who you want him to be. And if nothing else you'll have some answers and can figure out what you want to do. Also does he have enough to do during the day to keep him from getting bored? Falling in love again is also an option. They say we fall in and out of love with the same person over and over during our relationship. Whatever the case I wish your family may blessings including Patients and peace.
2007-02-24 09:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you see a marriage counselor together. A lot of employers will pay for a limited amout of sessions (see your HR department for details). However, if he will not go with you, you still should. It's good to be able to verbalize what you are feeling in order to help you come to grips with the situation in a rational way instead of emotional. You may find that if this marriage means anything to your husband, then he will do anything possible to make it work. But above all, you must be honest to yourself. Good luck!
2007-02-24 09:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Christopher H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the signs are there. He's not even very good at keeping it from you, which may also indicate that he doesn't care and hopes that you'll be the one to terminate the relationship because not only is he unfaithful, but he's a coward.
You sure you want to raise this guy's kids?
Bag it, honey. You can do better. Learn from a very unfortunate experience and don't blame yourself. Leave and don't look back.
2007-02-24 10:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the marriage has no foundation since marriages are based on trust and the trust has been broken. Your husband is not honoring the marriage vows and does not respect the institution of marriage.
I think you need to discuss your concerns with him. If he does not understand, then suggest counseling. If these two do not work, move on. Cut your losses while you don't have children. Its much easier.
2007-02-24 09:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take every thing out of the savings account when hes at work load up a u hall and leave a dear john letter; BY BY SUCKER;
2007-02-24 09:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get out that relationship obviously he is cheating
"Once a cheater always a cheater" He chaeted on you once he is going to do it again, but i also think you should talk to him about it and if he cheated pack your bags and leave girl, you don't need him. there is better fishes in the sea trust me there are
Jewel T.
2007-02-24 09:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I say dump him. Obviously he doesn't care about the marriage, or your feelings for that fact, I would confront him cause you need to know the truth he's not worth your time or effort good luck to you.
2007-02-24 09:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by futurecreationsusa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is over the moment he cheated on you! Just walk out the door!...Goodluck!
2007-02-24 09:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by spoiled_rotten_gurl18 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Another case of marriage NOT working. Why do you people keep getting married? MARRIAGE DOES NOT WORK.
STOP GETTING MARRIED!~!!!!
2007-02-24 09:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋