This is about emotional abuse!?

Question

What is emotioanl abuse and why people do it what sort of people do it..it has any background...pls reply

Answer 1

It means someone has become aware of your weaknesses/failings/fears and use them to manipulate you /hurt you / cause you too feel guilt / pain / more of a failure in order too possess some control over you.Some people do it to make themselves feel more powerful, too lessen the enormity of their own failings or some simply enjoy the feeling of being powerful enough to crush another human being just by the use of a few well chosen words. The mind is a powerful tool, where physical scars may heal , mental scars stay with you for a lifetime, even if some are buried deep within your mind they are lurking there ready to resurface and weaken you, should a similar situation arise in which they were formed in the first place.It can come in many forms and can be brutal/subtle, be a "one off" remark or a continued onslaught.Most of our fears and insecurities are formed in childhood when we are just learning about the world and are unsure of what our feelings and thoughts mean. ie if a child is repeatedly told "you should be more like your brother/sister, he/she always does well at his/her lessons, he/she is so much more athletic and better at sports than you are,you need to make more effort" The sentence it's self may not mean much but the thoughts and feelings associated with it mean alot, the feelings of not being good enough, the guilt at dissapointing your parents, the resentment towards your sibling, the feeling of failure, the fear of never being able too match their accomplishments, or of ever winning the respect of your parents. These feelings/thoughts may stay with you for ever, even if you have achieved your own goals in life and have had successes of your own, if your parents should happen to innocently mention some success relating to your sibling all those old feelings may rise too the surface, because they were buried away in our subconcious at a time when we were unable to understand them/ rationalize them or deal with them. People who use emotional abuse as a means of control have "pressed all the buttons" in order too arm themselves with the information needed to trigger your feelings of insecurity and weaken you, they know exactly how to stirr up your emotions in order to cause you distress,confuse and manipulate you. We all carry this emotional baggage with us to a lesser or greater degree.Learning to respect yourself, taking great pride in your own achievements, demanding respect from others, and trully believing you are deserving of it,and recognizing that it is wrong to use someones emotions in a negative way,too make ourselves feel better (including someone using yours), makes it more difficult for someone to manipulate you. It takes alot of hard work too break free from being the victim of emotional/ mental abuse, you have too concentrate on healing yourself, it will involve removing/distancing yourself from the abusive situation and some professional therapy may be advisable, not always easy when you are already mentally beaten down too take the steps needed to get out of the situation, some will simply give up and continue too accept being abused, because they believe there are other factors keeping them there or think this is their lot in life, after all it's not like they are being beaten or physically abused. Others will come to a point where it is unbearable and unacceptable too live with the abuse and take the steps required too escape it. It may be that you think it is the abuser with the problem, this is true but it is their problem and you can't fix it, you can only deal with your own issues and work on fixing yourself , no one is going to do it for you.

Answer 2

Emotional abuse is when your parents/family think only of themselves and do not take your needs into consideration. Done to a small child, it can ruin the person for life.
I suggest you read an excellent book on the subject "Memory and Abuse" by Charles L. Whitfield. If not available at your local library, ask them to get it for you through inter-library loan.
Its worth the read and will answer all your questions.

Answer 3

Emotional abuse is when one person takes advantage of another's emotional weakness, or manipulates or exploits their feelings.
The book "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship" by Beverly Engel will give you a lovely full response to your question if you really want to explore this. She shows compassion for the abuse-giver as well as the abuse-taker, and is concerned to help either party to change the dynamics of, or if truly necessary to end, any emotionally abusive relationship.
You can also visit her website http://www.beverlyengel.com and if you want to you can sign up for her newsletter. She makes a living from working to reduce emotional abuse and to educate people about it.

Answer 4

emotional abuse is where someone puts u down and abuses ur feelings. people just do it out of cruelty and power. any body can do it even thogh it's not right.

Answer 5

emotional abuse is hurtin smone mentally
this is dn by ppl who themselves are abused or hv a history of abuse of any kind
there are sm ppl who do it for fun...they get satisfaction out of emotionally hurtin smone

Answer 6

it is just like torturing u emotionally