I just want to know because my boyfriend messed up a few times, and lied a few times, and now I THINK he realizes what he could loose if he did it again. He says he really wants to live an honest life, to find meaning, and he promises (once again) that for sure, this time is different and he won't mess up. Men- have you been in the situation where you finally woke up and realized I love her and I don't want to loose her and really, were you able to change- stop lying- stop cheating?? I just want to know because I have been with him 2 years, and I want to know if I can believe his words AGAIN.
2007-02-24 00:55:07 · 9 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, most men will grow out of it as they get older.
2007-02-24 01:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is once a cheater always a cheater because it is something engrained in the man's character.
A character flaw is something that takes extensive work in therapy to change and the man has to take responsibility for it.
It is hard because you want to believe the man, but you can't trust a person that has messed up a few times.
He knows how to manipulate the situation for personal gain and he will mess around again.
2007-02-24 01:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by KAR36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never cheated and never would cheat.
I see it as betrayal. For me, somebody only has to mess with me once and they're out of my life. Everytime I've given people a chance they've gone on to do the same or worse again.
Don't believe him, dump him, cry your tears and get over him.....or accept that he won't be faithful to you ever and don't expect him to be.
If a man is the type to betray, he'll do it as much as he can get away with it. You should look for one that won't betray you but my guess is that you'll find that kind of man boring.
2007-02-25 08:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes likely he will cheat again. I hv experienced it before and it is not wise to trust such kind of man. I know letting a relationship go is saddening and missing a person we love is depressing. However would you want to go through what he has done to you before and get hurt again? Or do you want to move on without him.
You may one day meet someone better. Whatever he has done to you, let it go. There is no way to get even, it will only haunt you.
2007-02-24 01:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Truesurvival 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you brought up a good ?, an i say yes to a bout 90, per cent, once cheat will do it again, but their the 10 per cent , learn , it not worth the lost, an the hurt you cause your friend are wife
2007-02-24 01:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. baby girl, he's selling what you want to hear. this will always be on you mind when he's not around. who's he with; what's he doing? i know that you want to believe, but he'd failed your trust. i believe you're still young and there are lots of guys out there for you. don't think that this is the best you can do.
2007-02-24 02:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, once a cheat, always a cheat and, sadly, you are buying into his cheating by continuing to hope he will stop and by staying with him.
2007-02-24 01:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not true give him a chance "BUT YOU HAVE TO KEEP HIM INTERESTED IN YOU" wear sexy clothes and hole him close and tell him above all just how much you like being with him.
2007-02-24 01:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going after another girl then the problem is with your.... Ever taught why he does that??
2007-02-24 01:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by Database 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋