Iam here because The problem I have is very emotional and big....
I never thought that someday i will be here asking people who i dont know about something soo personally....
But i need some help,and friendly persons who can give me wonderful advice about my problem...
I fell in love with a guy from USA.
We chatted long time,and we decided to live topgether,here in Bulgaria..
But he is HIV + and now his visa expired....
He have a friend,who always manupulate him to come back to the states....and now my boyfriend is between YES and NO to come back to the states...
But before we being together,he promised me that he will never leave me,and he will be forever with me...and that NOTHING CAN SPLIT US...
But it seems his health is issue number 1...hes being sick from almost all the time...
heres the MAIN problem....i said that if he need come back to the states,i will follow him....but now he say that he wanna go alone....
because he will be in hospital long time
What i can do?
2007-02-24 00:20:27 · 6 answers · asked by Slavi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had a very close friend of mine pass away 3 years ago because she had AIDS. The very best thing that you can do right now is to not be selfish. Dont think of you this time. Be there for him when he needs you and most of all be safe. I know you want more than the friendship part, but you have to start somewhere. Dont rush things. Time and friendship will be lost in the end but you will have the memories left for the rest of your life..chose and pick your battles carefully. Think of all aspects of this issue and really let it sink in that your friend will eventually die from this disease..not trying to be negative but you need to relax take a breath and just be a supportive friend and let him come to you when he feels the time is right and if that never happens, then you may just have one wonderful friendship. Feel free to email me if you want to talk any more about this. I have a lot of advice for this topic..too much to put here really. Best of luck 2 U
2007-02-24 01:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by lucy_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he really likes you, but he doesn't want you to see him in the final days of his illness. It sounds like he's near the end. Love him all you can before he leaves. Because when he leaves, he won't be coming back. treasure the memories you have of each other.
2007-02-24 08:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by ron s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to let him make up his own mind. I know you don't want to loose him but it is his life. Make your feelings for him very clear and then leave him to decide. It sounds like he doesn't want to put you through seeing him in hospital, I don't think he wants to tie you down. If you are OK with this, make sure he knows it. Good luck .
2007-02-24 08:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the U.S. we have a book that is written to wake woman up who just don't get it, titled, "He's Just Not That Into You." I think it might hurt at first but then it will make you stronger for the next relationship.
2007-02-24 08:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It appears that he needs time with his illness. I don't think he is abandoning you. He is trying to spare you the sorrows of his being sick.
2007-02-24 08:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jan C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
only threatening his life will get him to do something that he doesnt wanna do. he will decide
2007-02-24 09:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by its not gay if... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋