2 months ago I asked my fiancee for time apart; things were moving fast, marriage was coming, and I thought I needed to think alone. She was very upset, but I insisted and didnt see her for a month. I realized how much I loved and I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry and she was dating someone else but she broke that off after 1 week. She forgave me and we are happly engaged again. Recently I found out that she had sex with the other guy before she took me back. She says she wanted to have sex and she was free to so. She also said the guy was very sweet and she was the one who had made the decision. She told him she would go back to me, and that he coud have one night only. We have talked about how she was hurt, and also about the sex we are back in love and my heart knows she is the one, but it bothers me that she admits she also wanted to teach me a lesson for hurting her so bad, and I wonder if it was right of her to make me feel jealous... but should I ??
2007-02-24 00:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You should not be jealous.
She is right in every way saying that YOU were the one who decided you two needed a break. She must have always known that YOU are the one for her, but she was mature and understanding enough to give you some time to yourself. She must ahve been very hurt when you said that, and needed someone thing to make her feel better - and that 'something' was the 'the other guy'. You have to live with it, since you were the one who let her go. Now that you are in love and are engaged you have to move on. The ONLY thing that really matters is that you two are together now , and will always be.
2007-02-24 00:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is here that you didn't descuss that you were to wait for each other or that you should wait until the month until you found someone or had sex with them so it is a matter of just forgiving and forgetting and never bring it up again really. I understand that you were hurt who wouldn't be but the subject wasn't discussed and wasn't agreed upon so .... Any how you have a chance to right this by entering into your new relationship with these in place and also for the marriage that is supposed to be a contact so bring the contract back into your marrage so that you are safe garded in the future both of you from this ugly hurt again.
2007-02-24 08:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance doesn't sound too terribly mature and not ready for marriage yet. You engaged and the she slept with a guy after only dating him for a week? You guys need some serious premarital counseling if you are going to insist on going down this path. This relationship has train wreck written all over it.
2007-02-24 08:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she loved you , she would not have broken up with you in the first place . What makes you think that she will not do this kind of thing after you are married ? I think that she already had this other guy set-up before you had broken up .
2007-02-24 08:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by rocknrod04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cannot have the cake and eat it to is a proverb. But here you threw away the cake and still did not want anyone to eat it.
Is not possible.
I guess you deserved it. That is a blunt truth
2007-02-24 08:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you watch the television show Friends you can learn from the episode . . . . .
WE WERE ON A BREAK! But if you can't get over it now, you never will. So you have some seriousl soul searching to do.
2007-02-24 08:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put it out there so I suppose you have to accept things like they are.
2007-02-24 08:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were on a break. It's ok for her to do what she wanted.
2007-02-24 08:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Max Power 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so.
2007-02-24 08:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋