planning on meeting the other. but strickly just friends. I am beginning to have strong feelings for both guys. one makes me laugh and shares my love for music, one intrigues me. Am i being bad?
2007-02-23 23:29:43 · 8 answers · asked by dorfelkhound 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you're not being "bad" at all. You're dating, and this is what dating is. You're exploring what's out there, and discovering what you like and don't like.
You're entitled to meet, date, flirt, develop feelings for, kiss, and more for as many guys as you'd like. When you first go on a date with someone, there is no expectation that you are automatically tied to that person. You are dating other people, probably just like the man is. It's nothing to hide or be ashamed of, it's perfectly normal and expected.
You certainly don't have to "choose" right now, it sounds like you're just starting to get to know these men. How can you choose when you barely know them? You could "make your pick" and then next week discover your choice is a biggot who beats his dog at night. Your other guy will be hurt and long gone by then. You need to know what each has to offer before you start kicking people to the curb.
***At the end of the day, as long as you're always perfectly honest when the topic comes up, there simply is no problem.***
If things start to progress with any of the men, then you should at some point have a talk about being exclusive and no longer seeing other people. Until that time though, you are free to date, explore, and have fun to your hearts content! Enjoy it!
2007-02-23 23:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope..as a guy it is wrong if i say this.. But i think Girls have the full right to choose the one she likes anytime in her life.... if a girl thinks that the guy she selected is not so satisfactory then the guy should go to some other girl who can be satisfied with him...it is simple!! so u can date as many men as u want...
2007-02-23 23:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by ee2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you're not being bad, you need to make up your mind about which one you want to be with and explain to the other one that you just want to be friends and nothing more.
2007-02-23 23:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you can pick and choose.
I'd give each my time (innocently) and learn more about them....then choose.
If your serious...I'd look on the "long-term."....where are they headed?....what's the plan?...family life?etc...
Ask each of them about a personal decision you're making..(not this one though)...the answer will tell you alot about their character....My preferred answer would be, "It's your life; do as you wish.".....that says he'd respect your decisions...unlike a "control freak."
2007-02-23 23:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not sleeping with them and have not discussed being exclusive with either of them, date as many men as you want.
2007-02-23 23:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should decide on one or the other..how would you like it if a guy you were dateing had another g/f?
2007-02-23 23:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...take your time, and try out different sizes.
2007-02-23 23:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope...it's good to have friends....just be honest with them
2007-02-23 23:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋