How to i convert to Jewish. What do to? How long does it take. Currently i am a Christian. Thanks.
2007-02-23 22:55:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, but you may have difficulty finding a rabbi to preside over the ceremony. A desire to convert to Judaism based on one's love for a Jewish mate is going to be viewed with sympathy, understanding, but with disapproval, because the thought is that you won't really believe in what you're going to be paying lip service to. Conservative and Orthodox rabbis will most likely refuse to participate in such a wedding.
But there is another way. Reconstructionist rabbis do often preside over Interfaith ceremonies. You might want to talk with one of them, if marriage becomes a serious consideration. Before you get married, you might also want to discuss with your beloved what sort of observances would be fitting in your interfaith household.
For example, are you going to keep a kosher kitchen? It's not possible (or at least not very practical) for one of you to keep kosher and the other not, if she is strictly observant, because the presence of traef is going to render the working surfaces in the kitchen ritually impure. Which holidays will your children celebrate? And so on.
Interfaith couplings do occur, and some of them work. I wouldn't be here without at least a few of them, but there is a lot to work out.
Shaolt writes:
"If you love her more than God, you will give up anything for her. If you love God more, you will give up anything for Him. If she loves you, she will give up anything for you."
But if you love her, there are some things that you won't want to let her give up for you, because you know how much they mean to her, and if she loves you, then there are gifts that she would not let you give her. "I couldn't let you do that" is a sentiment we need to put back in general circulation.
We see G-d in His creation, of which we are all a part, and love Him through our love of what He has made, each other included. If He did not wish one of us to love another, he could easily have steered them apart. Mere humans have accomplished similar things; should we imagine that what Man can do is beyond the capabilities of G-d?
Those who must be together must be together, and G-d made them so they could not bear to be apart. That was His choice. Should any of us presume to question the wisdom of it?
2007-02-23 23:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by J Dunphy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to convert. There is no reason you can't have an interfaith marriage. (My brother married an Irish Catholic woman. They managed to find a liberal Priest and Rabbi to reside over their wedding. So, it can be done.) Just keep in mind that when you decide to have children, regardless of how you raise them, in the eyes of the Jewish religion (and I believe in the Christian religion as well) the children will always technically be whatever the mother is. So, if this isn't a problem, then go get married and best wishes to both of you!
2007-02-24 00:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by OranjTulip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't convert to Jewish - you convert to Judaism.
Must you convert if you want to marry "her"?
It depends on the requirements and beliefs of her family.
You know that you're in love with this girl and you haven't already! begun studying Judaism! Get busy - you have a lot of reading to do.
Whether you decide to convert and/or marry, or not - you should know more than you obviously do.
2007-02-23 23:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not marry anybody outside of my religion - in fact you are so commanded by the Bible not to yoke yourself with a non-believer - practically - it is a huge source of marital conflict down the road - but you apparently have no religious maturity in Christianity because you are considering this ( I mean that sincerely ) - The Christian faith is inherently in conflict with everything Jewish. There is no Judeo-Christian heritage - that is a modern term coined by heretic evangelicals ( who are not Christians either - but who subscribe to the ancient Gnostic teachings of the Talmud & Kabbala ). Faith aside, depending on how this girls family identifys with their Jewish heritage - in general you will never be accepted by her family or their society - which is closed to non-jews to the point of being almost cult like. Which is ironic, because many jews themselves are not semites,or sons and daughters of Abraham- but Turks - IE ashkenazis. Finally, If you are a true believing Christian, you would loose your salvation by converting to Judiasm, because you are breaking your covenant with God as a practicing Christian. If you decide to marry her - there are many Jews in the Catholic Jesuit order who would love to marry you - remember - its not important who marrys you - a Rabbi, priest or minister is just a witness to the sacrament that you administer to yourselves - IE the gift of yourself to each other.
2007-02-25 07:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by thefatguythatpaysthebills 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know but i don't think its mandatory ,but if you love her and don't mind than do it but make sure you study the religion before you go into it ,the worst thing is to convert and then leave a religion .
i mean what happens if you don't get married or divorced you will find your self hating or disliking a religion just because its connected to her .
2007-02-23 23:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not called Jewish it's called Judaism, and it's a very difficult and time consuming religion to which one converts. I hope she has a nice a.ss.
2007-02-23 22:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
if either of you were strong in your faith, you would not have much compatible religiously... If you are willing to convert for it, you are not strong in your religion, if she is willing to convert for it, she is not that strong in her religion. If you both are, you both should find another religion, because it shows how little you regard the religions you are in.
2007-02-24 07:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by XX 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is that u reason, just because u want to marry with jew girl.
if is that ur reason i tell u no u shouldnt convert, just when u find some thing is true and inter ur heart do it.
2007-02-23 23:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a lot of people are gonna say don't convert believe in god...... do what feels right sweets it doesn't matter what you or anyone believes it makes no GOD DAM DIFFERENCE. good luck with the wedding
2007-02-23 22:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe you need to change your religion.
your religion is yours and her religion is hers. the only things is common between you is love and its independent from religion
2007-02-23 23:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by saman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋