As the question says. Not the the guy is extremely wealthy.
But do you think the guy should pay for every date or go Dutch?
2007-02-23 22:37:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And what would you think if he insisted on paying for every date?
2007-02-23 22:37:28 · update #1
well sometimes that's really nice, but sometimes i prefer to pay for myself, or 50/50.
if he does that or insist that's definatly because he is trying to impress you, or maybe he likes you so much that it just normal for him?
Anyway at some point it all can feel like - i pay for you, so you just own me smth! Hope that's not true
good luck
2007-02-23 23:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unless it is the guys birthday or something that he should pay for the girl. I mean he is the one who wants to go out with the girl on the date. And if a guy does insist on paying for each date then he must like you and is more than likely a real gentleman. Hard to come by and lucky to have. Congrats!
2007-02-23 22:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with her, upfront. Get it out of the way and avoid some awkward moments later. If she has a job (or a reasonable allowance), then she should pay at least some of the time. Remember that it can be tough for girls too. Many have had it pounded into their heads that if a guy pays for everything, he is expecting sex later. By asking her to go dutch occasionally, that may help reduce that suspicion.
2016-05-24 05:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about who pays, it's about what the two of you feel good about.
You need to be with somebody who YOU are comfortable with.
And who you can TALK TO about whatever arrangements happen at any point in the relationship.
I've been in all kinds of pay-date situations and over the years that is what I figured out.
If the other person always insists on ANY arrangement and YOU don't like it, then the two of you are not a match.
Who cares what anybody else thinks "it means"?
Have fun.
Be cool.
2007-02-23 22:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if its the first date. i will let the guy do the honours. but i think its only fair to take turns to pay or at least ask to offer to pay on the next date. even as a couple together i think its only right to take turns cos its a mutual thing. u don't sponge on the person every time.
if he does it every time, i think i did be uncomfy unless he is really really wealthy or time tells that his character is just this way. i will probably make it up in other ways like cook him a meal or buy him a better birthday present
2007-02-23 22:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However wealthy the guy is or is not, it is HIS fortune to spend.
It is only in the girl's mind whether or not she agrees to 'owe' him for that.
Some guys try to 'buy' a girl because they don't think they have anything better to offer than money
Some other guys are well aware of what they have to offer from themselves, and they offer the money/tickets/dinners like frosting on a cake.
I would tast the cake to see if the paying-for-dates was only frosting or not - then again, I would probably observe the whole scenario for a while and get clear on my own feelings, first.
2007-02-23 22:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is amazing, but I feel a bit bad. I was on vacations last year, for two months and my mom was the one with the money, and she had it in her credit card, being from venezuela, we cannot obtain more than 400 dollars in cash so she saves them... the thing is that i didn't have any money. And I went on dates with this guy for 2 months and every single time, he was the one who paid. I felt a bit bad because i felt like I had to pay for something, and he studies, and works during the weekends, so it is not like he is a millionare. But he didn't have any problem paying everytime, and he also took me to very nice and expensive places. :D
I think it is nice when men pay, but we as women tend to feel a bit like owing them something. Unless the woman is a golddigger
2007-02-23 23:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its acceptable for the first few dates but after that the girl could offer to make it "her treat" from time to time or offer to go dutch. If the guy wants to specifically make it his treat then he should say so when he confirms details of the date.
2007-02-23 22:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello! pasovienn.
This is the way that it used to be if a man asked a lady out on a date,he would pay.
At the end of the date a thank you for a lovely evening was the way.
Take care!
2007-02-23 22:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its awesome that the guy pays for one date. it may be abit free-loader-ish if the girl lets him pay for every date. its cool even if he's not wealthy, it means he want to take responsibility of their dinner and he knows how to handle it. it's also very sweet of him if he insists on paying. gentleman-liness, chivalry and some other stuff have already gone extinct in some men so it's awesome to see it in rare occasions
2007-02-23 22:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by carlee^_^19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋