my wife told me she is bye sexual & iam strugleint to come to terms with it can any one help me
2007-02-23 22:35:11 · 11 answers · asked by roy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as long as she is monogamous and faithful to you, why would you have an issue with it? she chose you after all...
2007-02-23 22:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bi woman. In my experience I have met a lot of "straight" women who are curious. I've met women with partners who have flirted with me or who have been responsive to my I just wanted to let you know that it is not an usual situation.
When I was 1st exploring my sexuality I would hide it from the men I was dating, but I found this was detrimental to my relationships. One thing I can say is that when I told the man that I was seeing that I had had sex with other girls I really welcomed the way in which he was understanding and accepting. So I would say that this is the 1st thing that will really help in this situation. The other thing I have found is that I have always agreed to do things together with my partner - this is whether I am with a man doing a 3some with another girl, or whether I am with a girl doing a 3some with another girl.
I really appreciate partners who want to explore with me. We always talk about guidelines b4 hand. Your wife may not want to do anything about it, she may just enjoy watching DVDs or she may want to explore. I always involve the man I am with, I want him to enjoy it as much as I do.
There are ways you can participate - either by being involved, watching during the action, or setting up a video camera and watching after with your wife.
One thing I do is that I always choose the other woman; some gfs get intimidated if they have a 3some with a woman who they feel their man may secretly desire.
I hope I have been of help - elfreda6969@yahoo.co.uk. Talk to your wife, don't "struggle" with it. Good luck.
2007-02-23 23:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY to understand what Ella is saying she is telling you talk to your wife discuss the situation
see if you can live with it, and before you decided that you can't at least give it your best try before walking away from the marriage
it my just be a phase she might get a few female lover and decide that she would prefer just man at the end
it is hard for me to give you advise because I am a female and I never have the envy to try my own sex Yet I think because she was honest with you
you need to try to understand
Good luck
2007-02-23 23:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On you can decide weather to live with this.Your wife should have told you this before marridge.Please go to "relate".Look through your phone book and you should find the number for your local area.Do not begin to take this on until you both have some proper guindence.
take care,this is not personal.
janine.
2007-02-24 01:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop struggling to come to terms with it,and just give your wife your personal permission to act out her bisexual activities,and move along to the real thing ie a woman who is hetrosexual,and your wifes business is not your struggle
2007-02-23 23:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Struggling to come to terms with it ?????
Wake up pal, get off yer **** and find another bi woman your on the way then to fulfilling every mans dream.
2007-02-25 17:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Wity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it must be a phase shes going through or you can try spicing up your own sex life maby youve lost your flame and thats why
shes making it up just so you can brighten up.
start doing spontainious things to her and if she is really a bi
woman she will change.
2007-02-23 23:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THROW THE ***** OUT, Get yourself a monosexual but make sure she is made up the way you like, have seven children and try to earn a living breeding parrots. It sometimes pays to branch out................
2007-02-24 05:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3some time...
Look mate she loves you, just likes some girlie action too.
It means you get to join in
2007-02-24 08:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you better start paying her for sex
2007-02-23 23:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋