2007-02-23 22:22:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i wonder the extent of "alone". I was abandoned along with my brother at 9 yr old. We raised ourselves. As adults, he turned to drugs. I was completely alone, without a clue how to get a life. So I made work my life. Yet holidays were so lonely, my phone never rang. Eating alone at restaurants was just life.
I don't think you ever get over it, but you must learn to live in spite of it. I spent so much of my life trying to fit in somewhere...to have someone. It just became more painful.
I started thinking about what I would have been like had I had any support to push me and I started slowly moving in that direction. Determined to never need anyone (I lied to myself), after I began getting comfortable in my own skin (age 30), I met someone, he placed no expectation on me. I acted like a maid, because I wanted him to stay. He just wanted ME the one that could sit and be quiet and be okay.
I found friends at church, while I am in favor of that, you need to find what you enjoy doing....hiking, traveling, etc., but please don't make it partying, that is the way to lose yourself not find yourself.
I wish I could say family comes back, but they don't always. Maybe you will have to be the one to start one. Maybe just with a good friend.
Know that I lived that life for 21 years, it almost destroyed me, don't let it destroy you. Find yourself, do what you love, become self-sufficient and carve your own place in this world.
Best of luck
2007-02-23 22:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by ggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweety,
u cant be alone sweety. we are all connected.
at times it may seem that u insist onething and others do something else. what we shall do when no one is on our side is, that we can just say what we are upto. to the end we can try to persue them in our way.
but i dont think we can be successful everytime we do that.
so many a times we ahve to let it go, we ahve to do everything we can, but the most important part of it is, just be there while it happens. what i feel is we should put best efforts to understand the completely in a situation that no one gets hurt.
but my heart says that tolerance is better than to be a in a dirty argument.
THE WORLD IS PERFECTLY ELASTIC, WE ALWAYS GET WHAT WE GIVE,SOONER OR LATER.
jagan....
2007-02-24 06:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by jaganp_dr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't you learn to live with it and that is no easy task either. I am alone as far as people go but I do have many pets that make it better to cope. I have to admit in the beginning I had a lot of anger and resentment and I did a lot of crying and screaming but I have learned how to substitute those emotions with various things such as Taebo and I just joined the club. Focus on what you can do to cope.
2007-02-24 06:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lynnemarie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been through that. what i did was let go my thinking that "somebody must be" on my side. it's hard to realize that your closest friends and love ones may not understand you when you need them the most but they can't be blame for it. they would like to understand but they just can't because they just can't. then i thought nobody has the responsibility to be on my side.. i have to face life as it is and continue fighting for what im fighting for if i am sure that what im doing is right. when no one was on my side, that's what i did. i took a lot of time thinking that maybe nobody was on my side because i was wrong, you should take that time to think too. but after that if you know for sure that you are right, then stand by it and nobody needs to be on your side. you can do it. :-) you have to trust yourself.
2007-02-24 06:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this happens to me in life, I usually ask god to help me realize if I have done something wrong. If no one is on your side, then maybe this is your journey to realization!!! I am not trying to be mean, but we ALL make mistakes. If one can realize they have made a mistake, then your journey is just beginning! Good Luck!
2007-02-24 07:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you'd better be on someone else's side. Like the Bible says - " Do unto others, as you'd have others do unto you".
Try it & suddenly you'll realise that you have many on your side as well.
You can do it...All the very best!! â¥â¥â¥
2007-02-24 06:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by PT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i am with me, i put myself in their shoe and see what am i wrong about which is driving others away from taking my side and if i was wrong i would try understand others, and if i wasnt wrong then i would think what is going wrong that makes me sound wrong and try solve that or either adjust with the time.
2007-02-24 07:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell myself that I've held my head up through worse, and I keep going.
Don't feel all alone, honey! Stay here with us at Y!A :-))
2007-02-24 06:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there...
i think what u should do is to change ur mindset..because it's u who instil in ur mind that nobody is there for u, that u're all alone in the world....
maybe try to think more positively that you can do something great though ur alone...
2007-02-24 06:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by jhed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vipassana meditation
all things pass, this will also change
2007-02-24 06:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋