Adoption advice?

Question

This is a long story so please bear with me, any advice you could give would be really helpful.
My mother left my father (and me and my brother with him) for another man when I was very young, it lasted a matter of weeks and she then wanted to return to my dad, who told her she had made her bed go lie in it.
anyway, she then said she was pregnant, but as she was staying with a pregnant woman my father couldn't trust the pregnancy test she showed him, and he had very little trust for her at this point. He told her to have the baby (which was convinced didn't exsist) and they could talk then. She was having none of it, and disppeared for months and months a short time later. (My dad doesn't remember the exact amount of time)
Anyway, when she came back she said she had lost the baby, and they eventually got back to gether, just for her to run off again a few years later. this time for good.
My dad only told me all this last year, and he said that he doesn't believe she had a

Miscarriage as she had a new caesraean scar.(because she is so small natural birth is not possible) I explained to my dad that abortions are not carried out via the stomach, and he wondered then if she had had the baby and put it up for adoption as she had no idea whose it was, and my dad knowing about the affair would probably want to know if it was his.
How do i go about finding out if she did put a child up for adoption? She disappeared for us to never see her again, but she is alive and living abroad apparently.

Answer 1

I'm sorry you are hurting over this dilemma...

Unless you know where she went and someone that could tell you... or if she would tell you; there really isn't a way to find that out.

Adoption information is sealed and there are privacy laws in the medical practice.

If you have a chance to see her again, have a heart to heart with her and tell her it's important that you know if you have a sibling somewhere in the world and to please tell you...

In the meantime, make your own life much better than the example she set for you! ; )

Good luck! HUGS!!

Answer 2

Think you have got to start with your mum on this one. There seems to be some way you can contact her. If she did have a child it may take a lot of persuasion for her to come clean. If she has a new life she may be afraid if you find this child, the child might want to get it touch. For your own peace of mind I think you will have to face your mum in some form or other either by written communication or a meeting. You can hold your head up high, you have nothing to be ashamed of it was her who left you. Also think again very carefully if you want to go down that road as there is always two sides to a story. Have you spoke with your dad about actually attempting to seek information about a possible sibling.? If not you should really let him know you are thinking of doing this.

Answer 3

There is a web site called ancestery.com
and it has all birth records all you need to do is
key in your moms name and you can find out if a baby
was born and where.

Answer 4

write to her and tell her all of the above. Tell her you are not being judgemental, you just really want to know if you have a sibling out there somewhere.