How can I support my wife, suffering of breast cancer?

Question

Mammographical control indicated a pre-stage of breast cancer in my wife. She is very depressive, no matter it is a question of very early stage of cancer. How can I help her?

Answer 1

aww..thats so sweet of you..so how will you seppurt her?..simple..let her feel that everything's gonna be okay..easy said than done though..as you have said..your wife's very depressed at the moment..so letting her feel that everything will be ok will be difficult..but its worth it..trust me..be patient too..since she's depressed..she'll be irritable at times..just understand her..dont go cold on her..why?..because she is your wife and two because you posted a question about trying to help her..

have you ever consulted a doctor? i think yes. did her doctor recommended her to take chemotherapy or to undergo an amputation surgery where her breast's will be cut?..if anything was recommended the do the recommendation..

then try to find people who had survived breast cancer..lots of the if possible..it'll help her raise her spirit..knowing that their's still chance on her sickness..

and lastly..dont go finding a new wife..lots of people do that nowadays..

Answer 2

My family has a history of cancer. My grandma suffered from both breast cancer and colon cancer during the 1970s, and remarkably, survived both and has been cured for thirty years.

Recently, within the span of only a month, my mother had problems of her own. She has a hypoactive thyroid, and every few months, must get bloodwork done to make sure that the organ is functioning properly. A few weeks ago, her T3 and T4 counts were extremely messed up when her blood test results came back, and a nodule was found on her thyroid during an ultrasound. In addition, she had a mammagram done and the doctors thought they also saw a pre-stage cancer lump in her breast.

Although my mother thankfully did not have cancer, we promised to support her no matter what. We took her to dinner, talked with her, saw movies, helped with housework, etc., and did not mention the possibility of disease at all.

My best advice would be to continue to make your wife feel normal. Although she may have breast cancer, let her know that this disease is not who she is; that no matter what disease she may have, she is still the same person and that you love her no matter what happens from cancer, treatments, or anything else. Try to keep her spirits up, as a positive attitude has shown in studies a higher degree of cancer cure and survival.

More than anything, I would pray, and never lose hope.

Answer 3

well i know it hard my mom and husband have cancer mom has stage 4 breast cancer and husband has mouth cancer stage 4 if hers is early her out come is better she made need something for depression it wont hurt her also tell her that you love her and will be there no matter what dont let her get down go out and do things just because she has cancer dont mean she has to sit around all the time love her and help her do things

Answer 4

I have undergone cancer (still doing treatment myself), and believe a few different things. First of all, everyone deals with it in their own way, this is her way of dealing with it. Look into perhaps patient and family counselling at a cancer center near you, they oftne have this. As well, the earlier it is caught the better. You can outright ask your oncologist the prognosis, but keep in mind, that many people do overcome the odds, and i have seen someone go from pretty much the brink of death, end stage of their cancer, to into remission, and back in a normal life. I think letting her grieve in her own way, and letting her maintain her own independance and normalcy in life once she does adjust is VERY important, yet try to help out a bit too. Also look into support groups for her as well. Cancer can be a scary thing, and sometimes talking to people who have gone through it does help.

Answer 5

Make her feel normal - Like don't remind her of her situation.

If she's depressive, take her out - Make her feel that she's getting cured.

SHOW her that you still love her - And if she ever asks about death & things like that - Say that you'll make sure that she dies old & only after you...

Watch Good Comedy movies... Avoid romantic or action movies or even games. ( Until she's alright, don't worry she will )

And along with her - You too have to avoid depression. Usually patients get over it soon but their family suffers from depression.

Listen... My dad had Non-Hodgins Lymphoma, an equivalent of cancer, only more dangerous. Wheat Grass juice helped a lot.

Cut fresh young wheat grass & put them in a mixer after cleaning & washing - Give at least 300 ML to her daily - And keep it fresh, I mean don't wait for more than 5 mins from juicing the grass & don't ever try storing it or refrigerating it , delay will make the juice less potent to kill cancer cells. Wheat grass has highest content of Chlorophyll which destroys cancer cells like crazy.

And make her think of the White blood cells destroying the dirty cancer cells, that mental therapy helps a lot - Your doctor can help you more on that.

If my dad is normal today - Its because of wheat grass. The treatment cures you alright, but its wheat grass that can make you back to normal...

Don't worry - Everything will be alright !!! ☺

Answer 6

it's plain and simple. try to motivate her and encourage her. spend every moment that you can with her. right now i can just imagine the way she feels. it's hard to have breast cancer. i've never had it but my fiance' was recently diagnosed with cancer. he pushed me away from him, he didn't want to talk to me or see me. but i stood by his side and i'm glad i did because i know he wouldn't have been here today if i didn't. he's back to work and he's freed from cancer and i hope it never returns. this is a turning point in your life where you're wondering what should i say around her or what should i do. she wants you to be there whenever she calls. this is a crucial time where she thinks about a lot of things like dying. i know you love her or else you wouldn't be here asking what to do or how to support her.try to show her as much love do everything that you did with her before. she feels that everything will change let her know it won't and that nothing will ever change. if she's feeling weak talk to her about anything. ask family members over and sit with her and talk with her. it's very stressful for her now. i wish you the best and hope everything goes ok. my prayers go with you. god bless.

Answer 7

Be actively involved. You can start by researching the disease and what other people go through who have it.

Next, help her find a group of women like her, and I promise you they are everywhere.

Go out and buy her something in Susan B. Komen pink. There is also a good book out there that has women and their spouses who have participated in the Susan B. Komen Race for the cure. I would also reccomend that you guys think about participating in the race.

I know it sounds like I am a talking ad for Susan B, but that organization is very popular and has lots of good information. Below is a link to their page (it is legit) Hopefully the pink will help her to know that she is not alone and that there are many, many others who have gone through this. And on that note, she needs to talk with women who are going through or have gone through this themselves, because no matter how much we support and say we care, in the back of her mind she will be thinking, "you have no clue what I am going through". It probably wouldn't hurt for you to talk to other spouses of women with BC to know what to expect on your end.

I wish you and your wife well- good question by the way!

Answer 8

mammograms are not always accurate, please get a biopsy and find out whether there is a cancer. thinking positive is the best way. you may be helped by yoga, meditation, and self hypnosis.there are many treatments for advanced stages too, so the outlook is not bleak.

Answer 9

just be there for her no matter what. comfort her when she needs it, but try to make her smile even though times are hard. the outcome of her situation lies in GODS hands, the only thing you can do is be there for her. and love her even more and make sure she knows it.

Answer 10

well..you can try giving her cesium chloride with rubidium. I think there is also a cesium chloride with DMSO added into it. I dont think I can put websites in here, but there is one called chloride with rubidium on yahoo search engine....its a nutrition website found in 2000