my so called b/f~s uncontrolled dog has ate over $1000. of my jewlry. the dog is 7yrs old. his mom steals from me and blames the dog. if something of theirs would be missing its not the dog!! only my things . he ate my eye glasses $395. so i got a loaner pair. he got those as well. and yes i put them up high. i feel he should replace them. he told me to get the money from the dog??? this is wrong of him i feel. i would settle for a cheaper pair so i can see. am i being unfair? i finally returned to work this week and he wants me to quit? NO WAY!!!!!!! i need woman things he complains as it is. he tells me when to go to bed what to do this is wrong. he lets his mom take my things there is a lock on the door. however, he opens it when im gone and she freely shops as in lifts. i have been dating him 16 months and he gave me $80. and still complains. should i give it back? he said he does not want it. or should i say the dog ate it?? they both need a dose of their own medicine any ideas
2007-02-23 21:16:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fancy, DON'T LET ME DOWN. Sorry, I couldnt help myself.
First of all, you are obbviously madly in love with this guy or you wouldnt be dealing with all his crap. I think you might be a bit of a pushover if you dont put an end to this ridiculously retarded and vile situation of theft, distrust, loysalty and justification issues all rolled into a dysfunctional relationship. You have just a few very simple options. One: Do not get revenge. It never works out and almost always backfires into a situation you did not see coming. Trust me, been there, done that. Secondly: Tell him its either his mom, or you. This may sound like an irresponsible and unfair ultimatum, but then again, losing your valuables on a very regular basis is not in any way, okay. Third suggestion: Out of nowhere, sometime soon one would hope, you leave your apt., house, whatever...and get the hell away from that man! HE obviously doesnt care enough about you to end this piracy, or at least find out once and for all what indeed is going on. Lastly: If none of these strike your "fancy", then deal with the fact that you love the guy too much and will continue with your unhealthy relationship because he's either good in the sack or makes you feel better about yourself, FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS. BE a woman, and leave his *** like so many women have done to me for a hell of a lot less. Of course, that's just my opinion and I'm sticking it to you.
2007-02-23 21:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by B Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thought he was leaving it for the wrong reason, but if she had that much of an issue she should have just asked for another waitress(not saying it's your fault). I've never done that. When I turned 22 we went to a bar with friends and I got wasted. No waitress, just trips back and forth to the bar. My husband handled the money that night, since I go semi-retarded when I drink. I found out that he gave the chick a 20 dollar tip.....I was pissed, mostly because she didn't have to go above and beyond to accommodate my drinking, but I just asked him 'what the hell' after we were gone. I never said anything or took anything away from her. That was a pretty shitty thing of her to do. She should have left it on the table, and then she would have more things to yell at him about, since she was clearly pissed already. If my husband pulls the 'too friendly' thing, I tell him to knock it off or I will make such a scene and demand a new waiter/waitress.
2016-05-24 05:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! If I am reading this right, you have been dating a man - just dating - for 16 months and during that time he has disrespected you, controlled you, walked all over you and even given his dog a higher importance in his life than you? Now you are attempting to meet your own needs and he is trying to get you to stay in the situation and even cutting you off from outside support such as a job and the friends you may make there?
You are asking the wrong question here. Your question should be "I am in an abusive dating relationship, how do I get out?".
You're abused, get out, and get on with a real life.
Good luck,. HTH
*Grumble grumble! Good Lawd, now she's turning abusive too...just get out girl! What could he be offering that is worth that!*
2007-02-23 21:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like those apron strings are a little on the TIGHT side...
Why would you want to stay with a BF that lives with his MOM????
I certainly wouldn't keep anything I valued in that house...
If I were you, I would definitely leave and NOT look back. You can do better. Have enough self esteem to get out of a bad situation and find someone you can have a mutually loving and respectful relationship with.
He's NOT the one! With his actions, howcould you respect HIM?
Good luck! HUGS! ; )
2007-02-23 21:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop this guy. Drop his dog. Drop his dodgy family. tell him that if he wants his $80, he should get a vet to open up the dog and take it out of whatever is in there.
In an ideal world, every single love relationship should be based on mutual respect, and it sounds like this guy has zero respect for you, your situation or your possessions.
If you have an ounce of self-respect, drop, drop, drop him
2007-02-23 21:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by SeabourneFerriesLtd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, i stopped reading after i was done with your second sentence, enough said. Dump the man and his dog. It's so obvious. I'd elaborate on this more, but Im falling asleep and Im sure you know what I mean. Yes, go with what your mind/heart is telling you to go. Mine is telling me to go to sleep now. Good night/ morning
2007-02-23 21:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's most definitely not the dog that is your problem here. And a dog that eats eyeglasses?? And you actually believe that? Dump this Mama's boy and get on with your life.
2007-02-23 21:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe you even have anything to do with this guy.
As for the dog I would drive it to the closest Vietnamese resturaunt for a little field trip.
2007-02-23 21:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a suitcase, put all of your stuff in it, walk out of the house, get into your car or a bus or a train and get as far away from this totally selfish, abusive person you call a boyfriend.
2007-02-23 21:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by dreamgypsy1967 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the sooner you give him the boot the better. He's a big LOSER. You sound like a nice enough person, I'm sure you could get someone who treats you with the respect you deserve. Good-Luck!
2007-02-25 05:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by sherrimoreno6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋