hey guys,
so I know I am not ugly and not stupid, and I have guys interested in me and flirting with me all the time. however, I always end up being a one night stand and they always wind up treating me like I'm worthless...dumping me on myspace or ignoring me and breaking up with me on Valentines day. and those are the two boyfriends I have had in four years. what am I doing wrong? and how do I deal with this and fix it?
2007-02-23 20:57:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO. I have had numerous one night stands, but two boyfriends. They are separate, thanks. And I am NOT nutty.
2007-02-23 21:02:35 · update #1
you need to change your selection process in the men you choose to be with. Whatever your focus is its apparently wrong. Don't give it up easy to any man make them work for it. Real men, good men like the challenge and they do not want it to be easy because they think of how many others had it so easily before them.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 21:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop having one night stands if youre looking for a serious relationship. Meet men under more credible social situations e.g. school / work /dinner parties or friends' friends rather than bars where alcohol always make people do things hastily and emotionally . Start off with casual dating and a friendship first where you get to know each other emotionally and bond intelluctually before having sex. Withholding physical activities with your date might actually tell u what sort of men he is (whether hes just out for sex, fling or he's serious about you and is the one) and in the long run, abstinence from sex frees you from any excess emotional baggages and unneccessary insecurities. who knows, respectable presentable men which you're looking for dig other respectable girls and if he respects your stands and go with your vibes, you know hes the one! All the best and have fun! Changes must be made and its not always easy, but its better to be alone and take it slow then fast,hasty and loads of pain.
2007-02-23 21:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy,however....maybe you give off the wrong impression.Every attractive woman can get a mans attention,but what u do when u get that attention plays a major role in what happens between you and that guy.Get to know a guy and see what he's about before you have sex with him or else you'll end up being nothing but a temporary fix.
2007-02-23 21:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by DA_ONE_AND_ONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm able to assert approximately some women people that I even have seen: the subject is they be attentive to they're captivating, adult males are continually around, giving determination to them (those adult males are greater often than not loosers - the grotesque types, yet some are interior an identical league like us. whilst they stop getting determination from somebody, they attempt their actual allure- it works. So easily they USE and get USED for something or the different in existence, nicely u can call it a passport for promoting! and that i've got additionally seen that once you're a captivating woman, its very difficult to get the acceptable suited guy, coz every1 PRETENDS to be sooo candy and worrying - the objective is an identical (mattress, mattress, mattress). yet that's basically constrained to three good looking beitches (i wish the stars did no longer come) I additionally be attentive to an excellent sort of captivating and acceptable women people who're rather candy and valuable.
2016-10-01 21:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going after the wrong type of guys. Find a nice guy who will treat a girl right. You might not like nice guys, so that may be your problem right there. Stop dating jerks, only then will you will find a guy who is interested in an actual relationship not just sex.
2007-02-23 21:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had two dates in 4 years?
And you call your one-night stands "boyfriends"?
I suspect you give the impression, fairly or otherwise, of nuttiness, neediness, desperation, overeagerness for a relationship, or something like that.
2007-02-23 21:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose fault is that? Why are you even leaving yourself open to such demeaning and mindless fools? You are young so, why don't you play hard to get instead of playing the field. Stop what you are doing and get your mind right. If you feel that you are important then, be important. You can only blame yourself. I hope that you are on the pill and practicing safe sex!!! STDs' are everywhere.
2007-02-23 21:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by ibithedust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be disrespectful but if ur giving urself easy, then a guy just takes what his after and doesnt care about anything else, heck he got some thats all it matter. and im telling u like a guy that i am, just respect urself more and get the chance to know the person and for the person to know u!
2007-02-23 21:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by el_oso_candeloso 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop going to bed with a new partner right away. Let the relationship develop a bit. Then men may start respecting you more. Also you need to look at how you interact with the men you are seeing. Are you too needy? Possessive? Maybe you need to back off a bit.
2007-02-23 21:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bobby Cretin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make yourself so easy to be had. As you said,always a one night stand. This could be what's going around and your not aware of it. Demand respect before you allow yourself to be use by anyone else.
2007-02-23 21:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by quiet times 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋