I'm always wondering why that after 4years of being single I haven't met the "one" or that someone "special", I get complimented alot on how attractive I am and personality etc, but the places I go like to bars/clubs i never end up meeting anyone and Im not into these one night stands that others seem to have! I am a little shy and want to know, how to approach or even meet a really genuine man in my life......?????
2007-02-23 20:50:47 · 8 answers · asked by Natasha23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T go to bars and clubs to meet people. If you want to meet someone you click with on a deeper level, take a class or get involved in some kind of community activity in which you will see the same people every week or so. All of the people that I have developed a serious relationship with, I have either met at work or school, or some kind of class that meets on a regular basis. Just pick something that you have always wanted to try or have been interested in for a long time, but never made time to do it before. That way, you can be sure that if you meet someone, they will have the same interests as you, and you will be able to relate to them.
The reason clubs/bars don't really work is because every one is going there with the expectation that they will meet someone, and everyone has different motives. Most guys for instance go because they want a quick hookup. Girls are usually looking for something else. Even if a guy isn't looking for only sex, it always feels like there is this pressure, because you both know you are there to"find a mate". Its kind of awkward. When you meet someone in a class, you are there for something else, so there is no pressure to do anything. You can just relax and become someones friend without any expectations, and then things will happen more naturally. Plus, you will be doing something for yourself too!!
2007-02-23 21:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by J.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a one night stand can lead to more. I'm not suggesting that's the route you should go though. Be more confident in yourself. Ask someone out and see how you get on.
2007-02-24 04:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by thelivinglegend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wonderful, you're not settling for just anything. I hope you end up with a man you deserve for going that long. It's good to be demanding, filters out the losers who dont deserve your time nor energy
2007-02-24 04:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself time and keep your confidence....and maybe start going to other places, because a bar or club is not usually the place where you'll find the "one."
2007-02-24 04:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought about giving time into your local church? When others see what you are offering to others, then may introduce you to people like yourself.
2007-02-24 04:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Venita Peyton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you try to hard he'll find you if you are confident and open to conversation
2007-02-24 06:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by funguytank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not the right time yet. "a watch- pot never boils"...
2007-02-24 07:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can find one here
2007-02-24 04:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋