I am newly single and (hot from the interest I can say this is so+I'm funny), have several prospects(guys taking me out or interested in doing so...But my one concern that I've noticed is that not one of them wants to try to do anything special or exceptional.No guys seem to have the creativity or courage it takes to woo a girl.What;s the deal?Plus,I might add that I'm celebate til I meet the one I want to have it...Guys that have been "courting" me lately seem lazy or aggravated thatI don't "put out",even though I tell them I'm celebate from the get -go...
Are they just used to girls givin it out for free.Has it really come to this?
I'm sooooo disappointed in the men in our society today(and the women who end up sad after giving it away w/out a guy having to do anything for it at all-not even try.)Who's fault is it* women wo sleep w/guy then get dumped(happened to many of my friends altely),or the men ,who are to lazy(or scared to have enough courage to really sweep a girl off her fee
2007-02-23 20:40:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yo,Jack...You obviously did not READ my question before you gave your answer....I am CELEBATE..And UPFRONT about this before I go out with guys...there is no cheating 'cause I'm not sleeping with any of them...
Yes,it seems like an epidemic that most people seem to accept these days,but I can tell you one thing for sure,the one guy that I will want to be with will find inside himself the guts to do what it takes..this is attractive to women,and yes,onviously some of these guys maybe(unsucessfully) wanted only to get in my pants,but there are men of a more soulful quality,men of passion,compassion,with great depth and brave hearts....This is the kind of man women want....Guys..don't be afraid to be the MAN!!!We want that!
2007-02-23 20:55:27 · update #1
The reason the guys are "lazy" is because they are used to women who settle for less. If they can get another girl with minimal effort why would they want to work any harder? It is both men and women's faults. The women for not having enough respect for themselves to demand more, and the men for doing the bare minimum required of them to keep the girl.
2007-02-23 20:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by J.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound really right-wing...
Single parent households.
Boys growing up these days are more likely than not to be in a single parent household.
That says NOTHING bad about their wonderful mothers, but boys have historically...even naturally...learned how to be men by observing how their fathers treated their mothers.
Granted, if a household has violence in it, it would be better for a child to have only the one parent at home.
But that is not my point.
The fact is that the boys you date don't have a clue because no one has been a role model for them.
So, they do what other guys do.
Boys learning how to treat girls from other boys...really frightening, huh?
However there ARE exceptions to the current trends.
Here is a suggestion that may point you towards a good guy.
Watch for a healthy married couple, in church, at a volunteer activity, anywhere.
If they have a son within your age range, he MAY be the type of guy you are looking for, because at least he was raised in an environment where his father loved his mother above all else (except for God, maybe).
Last, every day make sure you remind yourself (through prayer or meditation or talking to yourself in the mirror) that you DO deserve to be treated well, and you will not settle for second best.
Oh, and call your Dad and tell him you love him, because I would almost bet that he showed you what you deserve by the way he treated your mother.
God Bless,
G.E.T. RN
Retired Psychiatric Registered Nurse
2007-02-23 20:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by gordios_thomas_icxc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not taught how to woo a woman because their Dad did not know... much of the love left the world after the great war because men did not fight fair and all honour was lost... So to was their passion for love and the magic of it. You will need to look harder but I have watched and some men still woo women who behave like a woman, dress like a woman... for a man to want to woo a true woman needs to be everything a true man is not. The physical connection begins with sight then it is caused by the passion in the emotions.
2007-02-23 22:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by James 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY what you mean. As a writer who only writes stories set in the Regency/Victorian era England, and who only reads books set in that era, it's hard to not live this life in the modern world without being disappointed. Where did all the guys who pulled the chair out for the girl when she sat down, go? Yah, guys these days want free s.ex. Virginity is no longer considered sacred (or so it seems, according to the media) and so, as it is no longer considered sacred, there would be no point in wooing, I guess
2007-02-23 20:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by June H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s normal for a guy to be intimidated by a girl, a guy that really love the girl wants it to take it slow… give a girl a time. He just wants you think that he can wait for your right decision, he doesn’t want to have a wrong relationship with this girl.
If they are seem lazy? What’s up with that? This guy doesn’t deserve to be love, but the best thing is to wait for the move of the guy and in this way a right relationship is detected.
2007-02-23 20:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by Its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There ARE some guys out there who know how to woo a girl. Some. But you have to dig them out and get them away from their friends to find out that they actually ARE that kind of guy. You know that guys can't show affection or say anything or do anything sweet for a girl in front of his mates or he'll get the piss taken out of him.
And there are some guys that will try when their mates aren't around, but maybe they're shy or something. And yeah, unfortunately there are some guys around (most guys actually) that think girls are just there to give them something to stick that thing that they're all fascinated with in. And what's worse is that there are girls out there that let them.
Show these guys that you aren't like that! And don't go out with any guy who asks you out for dinner. Find one that you really like and go with him and get to know him. Going out with whoever asks you kinda gives the impression that you're one of those girls just giving it away. Stop.
2007-02-23 20:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Natz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that the guys you have dated have only had one thing in mind. Not everyone wants the same thing or has the same standards as you. Give it time and eventually you'll find the guy that can sweep you off your feet and still respect your decision.
Maybe try paying less attention to the overly aggresive guys and try notice the one who isn't trying to force himself on you. That in itself should show some level of respect.
2007-02-23 20:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Derrick_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just meeting the wrong ones. There are real men still left that do crazy things for the ones they love. I myself have fallen victim to this and it makes me laugh to this day the crazy things love will make an otherwise sane gentleman do. Many women today act like men when it comes to giving it away and its sad really. It has come to wher finding a good woman with morals is hard to come by, and for myself even harder to keep in my life after finding her.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 20:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh* guys are too lazy, girls are too easy. who's too blame?.. *you can't change him* if you wont satisfy him, he'll move on to the next chick who will. You're not the only "hot" lady out there. There are plenty and willing. If boys wont find any chick that will feed his appetite with little initiation, he'll just get his fun from video games or videos.
2007-02-23 20:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all of that damn rap/hip hop influence everyone thinks that women are objects and their just there as social status
basically a bang em' leave em' society
2007-02-23 20:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by One guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋