I want to break up with my girlfriend because I feel the relationship is wrong. I am always thinking if this changed or that changed it will be different. It never is. Its been like that for years. Every time I am with her I am unhappy but then I leave her and I am unhappy without her and think things are going to be different if I see her. Then we try and make it work and it doesn't. Sadly and I know this is shallow I think one maor reason I dont want to leave her is because she is incredibly attractive and very seductive and sexual (was offered to be a bikini model). How do I get over this attraction thing and move on without thinking about how beautiful of a girl I am giving up and knowing all the guys that are going to be after her. This is torturing me! Anyone been in my shoes?
2007-02-23 20:00:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will heal your emotional wound. In the meantime, let the love takes its course.
2007-02-23 20:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frank,
I can't say that I have been in your shoes. (Sorry) However, you said yourself that you feel the relationship is wrong. So, you aren't doing either of you any favors by staying in it. You are unhappy - yet you also seem to not want her to be able to move on and become happy. (Do you believe that your being unhappy makes her happy?)
You need to go over - (write it down!) what makes you unhappy when you are with your girlfriend? Do not make a list of 'If this changed....' because you can't change her! You can only change you!
You state that she is physically attractive, seductive and sexual - so granted, she will remain physically attractive (but only for a certain amount of time - unless she takes excellent care of her skin and figure) - but physical beauty can also be gone in a split second. Then what is left? (No - do NOT take it into your own hands to change her appearance!!!) Of course, just as easily, you could also lose your vision - so again - what is left? (Personality!!!)
Get some mileage between you - so you aren't tempted to go see her. (Move if you can/have to!) Then, before moving into another relationship, learn to look past the physical beauty, and look at the spiritual beauty and/or intellect of the woman you are wanting to date. She may not stack up comparably in a bikini contest - but there is a lot more to life than wearing bikini's!!!
I don't consider myself any 'great beauty' - and I won't even wear a bikini - LOL. But, in my husbands eyes (whose eyes are the only ones I care about!) I am beautiful to him! I am not into physical appearances - but I have been blessed with a wonderful, loving companion, fantastic co-parent, and he is very handsome as well!
2007-02-24 04:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by sogerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy in the relationship, it doesn't much matter how beautiful she is. Move on already, it sounds like you have wasted more than enough time trying to save a relationship that obviously wasn't meant to be saved.
2007-02-24 04:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u want to break up with her...but dont feel lik giving up her beauty.
rrrr... so damm wrong!! u hurt her more if u keep continued u this relationship and be unhappy urself
2007-02-24 04:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay...dont let beauty trick u!!!!u have 2 look deepper den dat mkay.if she is not makin u happy den she is not dat person 4 u.if u r unhappy around den she iz not good 4 u.beauty iz just da outside,it iz wat iz within.i had da same problem..i wus wit dis guy and he wus so fine,but he wasnt makin me happy so i had 2 let him go.everyone wus all over him,but i just moved on and finished livin life,i found someone else.find dat strength deep in u and let her go.
2007-02-24 04:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by â?¥Ms.ToP nOtCh ChIcKâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL u what you do.BEFORE you break up BOTH of you pray together. BRING G0d in your relationship. WAtch the changes.
2007-02-24 04:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really don't want her, you just don't want anyone else to have her! Stop wasting your life, and hers move on!
2007-02-24 04:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by GG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....but I'd like to be!!!
2007-02-24 04:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋