For over a year now, I have been seeing my current girlfriend. We have had our ups and downs. Recently we made the move to live together. We got a very nice condo, and have almost finished setting up shop.
More to the point, lately we are having more downs then ups. I love this girl very deeply, and I really want to do everything I can to make it work out. I know there are things I need to do to make things better. But when it comes to her, it seems like she doesn't want to change to fit into our new environment.
Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-23 19:58:51 · 9 answers · asked by JArottman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Given the details, there are two steps you can make in order to try to save a relationship.
Both of you have to be willing to try to reach to some mutual understanding and better bonding. The two of you need to tell each other what is bothering the relationship. You have to be open and trustful..
If, as you say, she seems not to be willing to fit into the whole picture and you are the one noticing something is wrong, YOU HAVE TO give her space and some time for her to express what is bothering her. Allow her some iniciative and give her support to where you percieve she is leaning. Both of you are investing your one lives into the mutual moment and this period seems to be important.
If that doesn't seem to be working, you have to seek professional help from a marriage councelor. If she is neither willing that, you have done everything you could have, and trouble is to knock on the door.
2007-02-23 20:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to be willing to make changes to keep each other happy. If you respect her and love her enough to realize you need to change things than she should do the same for you. That is the basis for a good relationship.
It could be that you guys are just going through a faze too. I mean you just made a huge change it is going to take some getting used to. I think you guys should talk tell her how you feel, and talk about maybe some fears that you both have. Just give it some time settle in and address the subject. If a long period goes by and you are both unhappy end the relationship.
2007-02-23 20:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend.
1. dont let every small thing upset you.
2. are you sure you she is not feeling suffocated due to your behaviour? if so, pls try to give her more freedom, room n breathing space in the r'ship.
3. are you sure you are not giving her too much attention?so..she's taking you for granted? if so, try playing a little hard to get. act pricey. if a little bit of playacting brings a little spice in ur r'ship, the n why not?
4. make some "rules", both of you all and try to adhere to them as much as possible.
5. pls try doing some mind relaxing activities together, like yoga, meditation or REIKI, some websites/institutions do your reiki initiation for free.
6. take her on a nice date, say, by the water side, surprise her with flowers or something and TALK, effective communication is a MUST for every relation.
all the best!
2007-02-23 20:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants it to work, she would be willing to try. You will have your downs at first because this is new to the two of you. But it takes two to make a relationship work.My boyfriend and I discuss the problem then we both try to contribute to the solution.
2007-02-23 20:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say ya move out and live in seperat places because God wants us to live holy lifes and he will make a way.
2007-02-23 20:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by jesus_1988_freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen my friend, the best way to save ur relationship is to accept everything she say to u ,i mean all her donts u should avoid them u will see that ur relationship will remain cool and steady.
2007-02-23 20:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by olawale michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why? being a companionship is to be as one so u both have to compromise...and talk to her ...tell her ....u have to tell her most on wats on ur mind ....
2007-02-23 20:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by jaysonmgs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i would take it to the LORD in prayer.
2007-02-23 20:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋