Question for all ladies that most men want to know?

Question

Let say if you're in a committed relationship and before taking to another level, your boyfriends/to be fiances want to know how many partners that you have had sex with before him. Would you tell him the truth about the number of partners that you had in the past(eventhough it won't change how he feels about you)?

Gentlemen, would you rather drive a new beautiful rental BMW which has been driven by many owners or you rather drive a brand new Toyota Corrolla which has not been driven by anyone, if you catch my drift.

Ladies, this question is not about me and my girlfriend. I just want to know your point of views.

Answer 1

Interesting question you pose there and I'm sure you'll receive some interesting answers. As a woman in my mid-twenties, I have no problem sharing how many sexual partners I have had. However, some other women may feel as though it is inappropriate or even shameful. Unfortunately, there is a stimga in society attached to a woman having sex with more than one man. Thus, a man is usually cheered on for his sexual conquests while a woman is labeled a skank, whore, loose, etc.

The important thing to remember is that if/when the information is shared, try and let her know why you want to know. If it is because you want to find out if she is one of those names listed above, then you probably should stay away from asking. However, if you're asking because you want to ensure that she has no STDs or other unwanted friends, then go for it. Women (and men) should feel comfortable sharing this information without feeling any sort of shame or embarassment.

Hope this helps and best wishes!

Answer 2

I choose women by their resistance to extremism. If she's balanced in all things like my parents, she's attractive. If she's physically able enough to carry a 30 to 50 lb backpack and possibly stay on the Appalachian Trail in the Winter for 3 days with me, she's definitely attractive. A roughly built girl who's not drawn to extremism in any respect is attractive. I love balance and calmness. If she needs it to be a different adventure every day, or pay lack to emotion, or anything less than sensitive balance, then she's not attractive. Of course, I'm not sure if there are any other men like me, so you're getting a unique description of an ideal lady here. Physical fitness is paramount. Hmm. I just read the other answers on here. I guess I'm the 1 out of 10 or more kind of guy. Hope the description is a help.

Answer 3

Saying the truth doesn't really matters and it doesn't change the guy's decision if he really loves the girl. It will always be based on the guy's judgment since it is already not a big issue on how many or who were the girl have sex with before.

In my case, I would rather tell my boyfriend who was the "first" guy, but not more than that. I still believe in man's ego. They would still prefer a girl who's clean, and whom they can present to their family or friends where they can say that she is the girl they respected because she has no "bad" history.

I also believe that men are also thinking about the previous guy who become his girlfriend's sexual partner before. Not to mention the details on how they do it and how they enjoyed it.

So, in short, not all of my past experiences will be revealed to my boyfriend. Just let him respect my own secrets and love me for who I am at present. Past is past. No need to recall.

Answer 4

I must say it has its ups and downs. If you tell him, then no one else can ever through it in his face or catch him off guard and you better be prepared for a 1001 questions. I think you should despite the downfalls. Yes,men tend to try to use it against you, or think about it all the time but if he wants to be with you-he will.People make mistakes-especially when they are young and they can't change that.But I would tell him. Even if the guy thinks he wouldn't change his feelings,it does. Not to say that he won't love you anymore or won't be with you but there is an inner feeling when he finds out.

Answer 5

WHY NOT TELL YOU THE TRUTH? Of course I would tell the truth. BUT, what about the men out there that might use that against the female later down the road? I think that would be the only reason couples don't come clean with each other-don't YOU?

Answer 6

Why not?! There's no sense on hiding the truth. We don't really like pretence & we were not born yesterday. We both know that bygones are bygones. My beau & I are both open with those kind of things. It mades us trust & love each other even more. 'though there are things that are better left unsaid.
It will remain between us. Really, it depends on a person but my beau & I are lucky we found each other. (- -,)

Answer 7

i must say that honesty is very important for a long lasting relationship but always there are exceptions to the rule. and i believe this is one of those. no matter how the guy will say that his feelings wont change, still, i would rather not talk about it. whats past is past. there is this called an ego thing on guys and talking about past sexual encounters is not comfy.....

Answer 8

If a man tells you how many women he had you half the number.
If a female says how many she had.. double it,
so no matter what numbers get throws around..it wont really matter...
unless the number you had is astronomical. that would be another story.

Answer 9

i would tell him considering the fact that i'm an open person and my number's not a bad number to begin with and any female that's ashame of how many guys she's been with should of thought about that before she laid down with too many guys.

Answer 10

Women lie, men lie but the numbers never lie...Whether its 0 or 1 or even 50 I say you tell him because what are you ashamed of...sex? Please lets get real here guys thats not a deal breaker when your in love...It may leave a sour taste in your mouth..but not a deal breaker. ;0