what should i do. heres the story. I am 23 i am in been with this guy for about 4 years. i have known him since i was 9. he is my first love. we have been through a lot together. but there is one problem. he goes home to a unhappy relationship every night. he is not happy with the woman he is with right now. when we are together he constantly tells me how he doesnt want to be with her anymore and how unhappy he is but he knows that if he leaves the situation is going to get ugly for everyone involved. she wont get a job, she wont cook, clean or do anything. all she wants to do is sit around and play ps2 all day. i dont know what to do. i love this man so much, and he really does love me, but i am not going to sit around and wait on him, but i also dont want to be with anyone else, what should i do? should i wait to see what the future holds or should i move on and end up alone
2007-02-23 19:43:35 · 9 answers · asked by misseshodges 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel. If he didn't want to be with her then he wouldn't. I went through this before-it was this reason and that reason why he was with her and I was on the side at the time(and I was with him first).But I just couldn't take it anymore.I was about to leave him and I think he felt it-he left her because he was ready to and was ready to be with me.Sometimes, people have to risk things for the better. He left her, and here we are today. We stay together and been fine every since. If it was meant to be, it will and if he really loves you-he will follow you.He is with her for a reason-everything isn't easy. He will never leave her if you think it is because everything would get ugly-in the future, it will only get worst. She will feel how can he leave her after all these years!!!Believe me-over time it gets worst, and harder to leave someone.
2007-02-23 19:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 23 years old.You still have your whole life in front of you.Don't wait for this guy to wait for a better time to leave that girl.Reality check break ups are ugly ,period.If he is really that unhappy it's time to fix it.And if he really loves you as much as you think he does then he should be more worried about losing you then losing this other relationship.He needs to grow up and make a decision.
I hope things turn out the way you want.
2007-02-23 19:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by bjustnape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with just him, stick around and wait. It might not ever happen, but thats the price of true love. You could secretly let her know about you, maybe "accidentally". But then again, he may be leading you on about how his relationship is going. Very often when a man is cheating on his girlfriend, he will tell the girl he's seeing about how bad his current relationship is in order the keep things going with you. Be very careful about this situation, it could cause a lot of stress and drama that could very well stick with you for the rest of your life with him. Good luck and stay strong.
2007-02-23 19:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be another guy who is worth much more than this guy. He will care for you and support you no matter what happens. You might not love him as much as this current one but somewhere down the road, the worthy guy really worth you love. Just stay as a friend to you first love as he is doesn't love you at all. If he does, he would had left his woman.
2007-02-23 20:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by warrax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't left her by now, he never will. Go fond someone who cares enough about you to be only with you. Of course, if you wanna really be sneaky....I had a friend who was cheating on his wife. The other woman wanted him all to herself but he wouldn't leave her. so, the girlfriend took matters into her own hands. One day, after having sex with my buddy, she called his house while he was still in her bed. she told his wife that she'd just f--ked her husband..and he's laying here right next to me...wanna talk to him? He quickly divorced!
2007-02-23 19:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by konstantin1917 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi although it might hurt alot I dont think u want 2 be around this guy anymore so I suggest u move on and get another guy. I dont think he respects u!
2007-02-23 19:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by kevo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are made for each other.What are you waiting for?
2007-02-23 19:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't end up alone....move on...see if he follows!
2007-02-23 19:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋