me and my GF have been together 4 about 18 months and thing were really serious but now its gone crazy she is 17 i am 22
when we first started going out she cheated on me with 2 guys(at the same time) which i forgave her for but she is so demanding i have to pick her up from school everyday buy her dinner every night and then stay with her from 3:00 til 10:00 every night or she will think i hate her she never ever comes to my house at all!!! she gets me to clean her house for her and cook for her, she has cut out sex from our relationship i have not had anything with her for 4 months everytime i go to her house all we do is watch tv and when i want to go out with my friends she gets upset and starts having a ***** she didnt get me anything for xmas or valentines but then complains about me not spending money on her.
she has the hots for every guy she see's and perves on them and things have gotten really bad and i don't know what to do PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-02-23 19:34:13 · 22 answers · asked by dean s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to be brutally honest with you.As a girl and from what you've said,she basically sees you as a "do boy" Someone she can use to her advantage and get what she can from you.The fact that she sees that she can treat you any kind of way and you'll allow it,she's going to continue to do it.She has no respect for you and she never will if you don't demand it.I suggest you let her know that what she's doing is beyond unfair and that everything you do for her,another female will gladly accept and appreciate.Let her know that if she can't fulfill your needs and give you the respect you demand,she can find someone else and see if they'll put up with no sex and disrespect.If you say those things to her,you have to mean it.If she doesn't seem to care,and want to change......she doesn't care about you and therefore moving on would be a smart decision,because no one deserves to be treated like that.
2007-02-23 19:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by DA_ONE_AND_ONLY 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are frustrated, unhappy and feel unappreciated and taken for granted.
What are you saying about yourself by staying with a girlfriend that treats you like crap? You are allowing her to treat you badly. While you cannot control her, you can remove yourself from the painful relationship. You are precious and are deserving of a loving relationship. You will be lacking a loving relationship as long as you stay in this abusive relationship.
In the end you get to decide what to do and what you choose. You are experiencing pain, neglect, controlling and manipulative behavior from your girlfriend, if you are comfortable with this, then stay with her. If the pain gets too bad, you will be ready to move on.
Sometimes it's very hard to end an abusive relationship. I have been in them and thought that I could stop the abuse or make the person appreciate me and treat me better if I was better or figured out the secret to making the other person happy. I came to realize that I had to make myself happy and treat myself with love and respect, remove abusive persons from my life to make room for the blessings and healthy relationships to come.
A book that really helped me was "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody.
Kind regards
2007-02-23 19:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's close to an accurate description, get out. And not because she's sleeping around, but because of how she treats YOU.
Protect yourself as best you can, however. For example, recheck the laws and her birthday to confirm whether you committed statuatory rape on her in the beginning -- and, if so, what the statute of limitations is for that crime in your state, province, or country ...
2007-02-23 19:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/uE3vQ
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-21 14:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As good as you are to her-you deserve a whole lot better than her. Sorry. But I do believe it would be best for you to find someone else. It sounds like she is using you. And, the fact that she "has the hots for every guy she see's", shows me that she is one of those gals that doesn't really want the committment. I really wish gals like that didn't do that-it makes us good gals look bad to some guys-not wanting to get involved because of past hurts. Sorry, but it's time to move on. I wish you the best. There are good women out there-that would be happy to have you as their man. It's her loss, your gain to find someone much better than her. Take care.
2007-02-23 19:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where's the doubt buddy, unless you enjoy the feeling of being treated as Mr. Crap!
2007-02-23 19:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flow get a order from the court docket for him to stay removed from you. devour a bathtub of chocolate ice cream. Meet a female chum for a drink and a few help. whinge all all to her and purge this vermin out of your existence. you will no longer be able to fall in love for what you comprehend a guy or woman is able to on the grounds which you would be enable down each and each time
2016-10-16 09:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When she's saying, oh, that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying, oh, that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care
Right?"
DUMP HER.
2007-02-23 19:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Guernica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DTMFA! (Look up Dan Savage to find out what that means. He has a great sex column in The Stranger in Seattle.) Dump her. There's no reason to stay.
2007-02-23 19:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man get out before is to late you need to find yourself a real a woman or you'll end up biting her toe nails.I think u need to sit down and think who is exactly the man in this relationship cause to me it looks like she is.
2007-02-23 19:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋