After sex with gf I kind of feel weird. I dont really feel like cuddling in her arms. Or have the feeling that I wouldn't want to be anywhere else. We have had problems lately in our relationship. It might be a religious guilt thing as well. Any suggestions?
2007-02-23 19:31:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm....talk to her about it. try to work through problems. just be open and honest.
2007-02-23 19:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married to the person you are having sex with, you should not be feeling any guilt. If you are not married, that would explain why you would feel "religious" guilt. It sounds like it's the religious guilt. Or conviction? Probably the reason you are having problems in your relationship with your gf, is because of the sex-outside of marriage. Why not take a "break" from the sex part of the relationship, work on the other stuff, and see where it leads you? To marriage? Or someone else instead? I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-23 19:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen, I hope I can be up front with you, as you seem to be quite mature for 16. What you experienced for your first time is good...if he brought you to orgasm with intercourse. If you didn't enjoy that, then he produced little you could feel emotional about. You don't mention that, but it wasn't fireworks obviously.There's some assumptions I'm making too, and that is that you knew what to expect because you have experienced an orgasm before. Jen, this should have been a bigger deal for you. Cumming during intercourse is so arousing it's addictive, in fact, you would have dug your fingers into his back and shoulders responding to convulsive bouts of ecstasy. In other words, you would have moaned if not screamed with pleasure. You are quite a sport, really, and you don't put your guy down, and you are to be commended. But, I think you got short changed, and the point of this is to start now with teaching him that won't cut it. Getting off by the male is not the objective of intercourse, explosive mutual exhilaration is, and that is evidenced by a female orgasm.
2016-05-24 05:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels and wants to do certain things after sex, you may just not be a cuddler, that is ok. If you are finding that you usually like to cuddle and lately you have not wanted to, I think it is just a reflection of the problems in your relationship. To fix this you have to address and fix the relationship. Before you try to fix things tho, you have to decide if it is worth it. Relationships are a lot of work, and you have to be sure you want to do it or it won't work. Decide if the problems are worth fixing and staying, or saying good bye and leaving. Good luck.
2007-02-23 19:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is kind of normal for guys... i've read it a few times in different articles about guys who feel like they just have to get up and move after sex and clear their heads (so to speak)... and then you know yourself better than we do, so it may be guilt... you'll just have to sit down and figure it out... and I'll try to find an article that I've read about the moving around thing...
2007-02-23 19:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are religious pray about it. maybe you should stop the sex, if you feel weird after it. maybe you arent meant to be. try to evaluate your relationship... is it based on more than sex and all that? just something to think about...
2007-02-23 19:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't always cuddle after sex so thats normal, if you trying to use sex as a way to get your relationship stronger STOP!!!
2007-02-23 19:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when did this weird feeling start? if you weren't feeling weird before then i would say try talking to her about what's bothering you.
2007-02-23 19:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by ellierckworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should go for help from a professional.
2007-02-23 19:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by kevo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell.
2007-02-23 19:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋