I have been dating this guy a few weeks. I accept that he is a recovering alcoholic (sober 4 yrs). He goes to AA, is honest about his condition, owns a business, takes care of his employees, and when we got up to being intimate, he got an HIV test and showed me the results. He told me before we were intimate he liked to take overly-hot showers to relax. In the morning I saw his stomach was covered with dime-sized scabs (about 30-40). I questioned this. He said they were from taking his hot showers. He blisters himself with the water! I asked him how often he did it. "2-3 times a day." I didn't know how to respond at that moment, but I've looked into "cutting" and I see that scalding also qualifies as self-mutilation. What can I do to help him stop? Do I need to end our relationship so he can face this problem? If I don't, am I condoning his behavior? Where can I go for information on how to help him? I'm afraid and I don't know what to do for him, and for myself.
2007-02-23 18:47:15 · 2 answers · asked by Rose of the Valley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first step to change is admitting that you have a problem. Confronting him about it may make him become defensive. Taking 2-3 showers a day besides the scalding/mutilating part could be Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. You could see a psychologist about his problem and then invite him to come with you and then you could confront him about this problem with the help of a licensed professional.
2007-02-23 18:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.sounds like an impulse control issue.if you stay with him you better get help he might be beyond it.
2007-02-24 02:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by kelly r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋