I am supposed to go out on a date with someone tomorrow. However, I think he is too "sexual for me." Even though a lot of guys joke around, he seems to be immature. Please let me know if this is normal, especially GUYS who are answering this.
We were talking, and I mentioned going to bed. He said, "Are you going to touch yourself before you go to bed, because then that would be legit."
He constantly jokes about me dressing up in high heels, short skirts and other various things...
He joked about a friend's mom molesting him (it didn't happen, but he was joking around).
He really is a GREAT guy, minus this part. I hate it so much. I don't know if I can even be friends with him if he keeps doing this.
Be honest. Am I overreacting?
Thank you.
2007-02-23 18:43:50 · 12 answers · asked by bones_to_heaven 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has immaturity written all over the guy. But then you didn't mention age.
2007-02-23 18:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not.
It's good that he's honest with stuff like this, but it seems like he's a little too honest that it becomes offensive. The next time he cracks a dirty joke that makes you uncomfortable, don't even react and just him a look. Hopefully, he'll get that you didn't appreciate what he just said.
If he's dense and stupid though, just get up and leave. You deserve a guy who will give you some respect and treat you like a lady.
2007-02-23 18:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by eissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... the comment he made about you going to bed seems to be more than the general guys' "sexual" joke. I would tell him (politelty) that his comments make him appear immature and its a turn off. If he doesnt change, drop him, there are classy guys out there, dont settle for anything less...
2007-02-23 18:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by summer10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though your morals are a bit higher than his are. There are some guys that believe in treating girls just as they would their buddies. They don't refrain from off color comments and are more aggressive in expressing their opinions and sense of humor. You are not overreacting, you just have a different attitude(actually more mature) than he does. You will probably find this more in guys his age than older guys. It's your choice to discuss this with him or just decide to look for someone with a little more mature attitude.
2007-02-23 19:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm no he's a creepo that's just weird like really wierd, you should really confront him about it and let him know how you feel, if you really want to continue a friendship then the best thing is honesty. Just let him know that you think some of hsi comments are very immature for his age and honestly wierd/creepy/not funny/ umm not flirty?/ and flat out very unattractive. it is definatelly not normal
2007-02-23 18:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by BlizzardRun07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has no respect for you- why you wanna waste your time on someone like this? And why on earth would you mention going to bed before your first date? Surely you can find someone to date that can at least talk respectfully to you.
2007-02-23 18:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by mike j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you going to go on a date with him then?
obviously he is a perv and if you let him talk like that to you, its just saying that you are OK with him being a perv and he will get what he wants when you guys have sex (not implying you will).
its just like saying, oh im gonna go out on a date with a HOT girl that cheats on every guy she goes out with. and me expecting she wont cheat.
2007-02-23 18:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Le Parrain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to go out with a guy like that. red flag. and that guy g-man needs to take a hike along with your friend
2007-02-23 18:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a 67 yr old male this guy is weird don't go on a date he could just as well hurt you if you don't do what he wants you to cancel it now !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! girl bad feelings about this nut
2007-02-23 18:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that if he knew me he'd beat me up for this, but yeh, he's waaay too immature. it seems this way to me , at least. i don't know anyone that immature, and i know alot of people.
2007-02-23 18:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋