I have been dating this guy a few weeks. I accept that he is a recovering alcoholic (sober 4 yrs). He goes to AA, is honest about his condition, owns a business, takes care of his employees, and when we got up to being intimate, he got an HIV test and showed me the results. He told me before we were intimate he liked to take overly-hot showers to relax. In the morning I saw his stomach was covered with dime-sized scabs (about 30-40). I questioned this. He said they were from taking his hot showers. He blisters himself with the water! I asked him how often he did it. "2-3 times a day." I didn't know how to respond at that moment, but I've looked into "cutting" and I see that scalding also qualifies as self-mutilation. What can I do to help him stop? Do I need to end our relationship so he can face this problem? If I don't, am I condoning his behavior? Where can I go for information on how to help him? I'm afraid and I don't know what to do for him, and for myself.
2007-02-23 18:36:09 · 2 answers · asked by Rose of the Valley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs some help, and not anything from yahoo answers... does he know that it's a form of self-mutilation? I'm not a psychologist in any way, but it doesn't sound like he's doing it to "relax"... he probably has some deeper issues that he really needs help with... scalding yourself in the shower is in no way healthy.
2007-02-23 18:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him you are worried about his scabs maybe he'll change his mind. If it gets worse see if he can see a doctor to give you more information about it if he is hurting himself more then see a psychologist.
2007-02-24 02:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋