G/F recently broke it off after a year relationship. There were some issues that we worked through, but the last few months were hard. She broke it off, wanted to work on things then eventually broke it off to concentrate on herself. She cares for me alot and always says so. Now, of course we don't talk as much but I definitely do think about her alot and she does call me to an extent to see how I am doing. But right now, the problem I am dealing with is with me. When it started going on the rocks, I normally start talking to all the girls I used to before hand and now I have been talking to this one girl whom I met and we text all the time and another one who wants to see me tomorrow night to drink and have a good time. Now I used to be an alcoholic and recently since everything else has been going on, I have started to drink more...my thing is, I don't want to go down this same path and sleep with girls to forget about her...but the offers are VERY tempting.
2007-02-23 18:01:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
k i had gone through a very very bad breakup like u didnt even know so i understand but c now im scared to get in a new one cuz im afraid of gettin hurt but thats besides the point-- i would resist the temptation like when u go out bring a close guy friend with u to watch u and kinda not let u drink or double date---- and with the sleeping with the girl thing -- think of it this way these r people u r using for your own pleasure and ur own selfishness to get rid of ur pain and these girls r not really wanting that and if u think bout it ur not either u just wnt get of the pain and the thought of ur ex -- so heres my advice take some time away from ur ex like dont talk to her that much on the phone or ne where else dont make an effort to talk to her cuz u gotta get over her and get ur emotions in order before u can even think of bein with someone else let alone havin sex with them --- and yeh its cool to date but just make sure u know that ur dating not havin a realtionship and if u do get into a relationship make sure to take things extremely SLOW believe u'll thank me for this and also think of the reasons ur really wntin to be with these other girls is it for urself or because ur truly interested in them and not havin sex ? so please do some soul searchin before u leap back into the datin world -- cuz believe me its a scary place and throwin ur body around from girl to girl just makes it worse and in the long run u'll just feel empty
2007-02-23 18:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Navywife09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you end up with in the end, after the temptation has been fulfilled is emptiness. No amount of drinking, sex or anything else can fill the void of a lost love. You should focus on using this time to better yourself and with time she may see your changes and come back. But trying to fill the void with these things will only leave you even more broken in the end.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 18:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the one you know will love u unconditionally! usually its not a good idea to get back with exes, cuz if it didn't work before, why should it work now? maybe u need some time with other chicks 2 see what someone else can offer you. ;)
but i'm not sayin u should sleep around like a man-whore, just get to know a chick.... and take it easy on the drinking.
2007-02-23 18:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kimber Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I think you need to ditch all girls right now, and alcohol.. It sounds like you dont like to be alone since you try to find a new girl before the one you are with is gone so that you dont really get hurt. but you still get hurt huh? so the pattern isnt working. I think you should take time to find out what you really want for yourself not just as far as relationships, but what you want in life in general.. good luck
2007-02-23 18:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
USED TO BE no such thing if you were a alcoholic you still are go to a meeting /seek treatment/ stop kidding yourself at the very least . as for girls sleeping with to forget not gonna happen tempting is ok sleeping with girl ok if you do it sober, and to have "fun" and thats FOR SURE why shes doing it Isay get your rocks off if this is the case
2007-02-23 18:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never make rash decisions with your condition. One drink is too much and 1000 is not enough, you should know this.
2007-02-23 18:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋