a specific way off worship. We don't believe in the bible or any other cult. My parents are christian. How do I have a ceremony that is not untrue to my believes and that will not hurt my parents?
2007-02-23 17:59:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It sounds as if you would like a civil ceremony performed by a justice of the peace or a judge.
2007-02-23 18:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have a friend a Roman Catholic priest and he has told me he empathises with people like yourselves. If a couple go to him, he talks to them for awhile, listens to what they have to say. If he believes they are in love, don't practice a religion but believe in God he will marry them and bless the marriage.. He says he prefers a couple being honest rather than spinning a story of how they are going to go to church etc when they really have no intentions of doing so. I am sure he isn't the only one with these views so it could be a matter of looking around. This wouldn't go against your beliefs and maybe save a lot of agro with your parents. There is also Humanist ministers but I think these are more for people that don't believe in God. However, these ministers are likely to 'pad out' the ceremony after getting to know the couple as they will probably speak about them and do appropriate non religious readings. Therefore the service is more personal than a registrar which is your other option. If you live in UK you can't just get married somewhere in the open air as in a park etc as the venue for the marriage must be approved. I think this is done by the Registrar's office, hence some hotels etc can carry out marriage ceremonies but others can't
2007-02-23 22:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey is this an easy answer. My daughter and i had the same problem when they got married. The pastor that performed their wedding was from the hospital believe it or not and he did it for free. It is crazy when you know your believes but because you do not attend church that a pastor can not marry you. Also another idea is me and my husband were married at the justice of the peace. It was informal but we just wanted to get married we didn't want a big to do. Any way I hope both these ideas can help you. Good Luck and many happoy years together, remeber the vows you take, and your marriage will stay strong. Your vows are very important. Those are some pretty heavy duty words we say to each other......
2007-02-23 18:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sheryl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a simple wedding and I do not know how your not going to hurt your parents because of their beliefs are strong if they are Christians and if you believe in God but not the bible I suggest you try to write your own vows, Because the wedding vows are in the Bible, and if you promising yourselves to God to be to gather and so forth and do not believe in the Bible that's going to be hard. How do you make a commitment and not use the words of the Bible in a marriage ceremony. The Judges and Justice of the Peace use the Bible to marry couples. That's something to think about you need to research your specific way of worship and see if you can get around the normal marriage vows, not to be mean but most don't obey them. I hope your serious about the love that you two have for one another because it takes a lot to make a marriage work and it works both ways. Some have to give more it's not that 50 50 your hear people talk about. My parents are going on 55 years and I don't know how they made it. I know it hasn't been easy.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BE WITH Y'ALL!
2007-02-23 18:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a non denominational wedding and explain to your parents why you have chosen to do so.
Your other option is to have a court marriage as this has no religion but is recognised by all legal authorities. Just remember that churches tend not to recognise this option as they say that you were "not married in a religious ceremony / in the eyes of God."
All the best and may you have many happy years together.
2007-02-23 20:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by drift 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could have a civil ceremony performed by a registrar. this is a non religious ceremony with no mention of any religious beliefs. they are still very meaningful and beautiful as they do talk about love and commitment etc, and you can have some amazing venues...castles, gorgeous hotels etc. the only thing is with a civil ceremony although you can choose readings and music the registrar has to approve them and he will not allow them if they have and religious connotations to them. you can get married at gretna green in some amazing places by a registrar or a minister. thats where im going :)
2007-02-23 21:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by tinselturtle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not a basis of love. Religion is not also a basis for a long lasting relationship. What matters is your feelings for each other and your will to fight for it no matter what. I think you should talk to your parents about it and make them understand your point. There are a lot of marriages that fail. At the start it is running smoothly but after those magical-like ceremonies, with lots of expensive flowers lining the aisle, and those exchange of vows which can be compared to a litany, annulment came next. But of course, not all marriages end like this. I say it really depends on the couple. It all boils down to true love.
2007-02-23 18:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by shaina 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the marriage is an employer which has been there from Genesis.Weddings have been finished in properties , as churches did no longer exist until eventually the 1st century after Christ . as a result you could pick any area to your wedding ceremony that makes you chuffed and is the will of your heart. God is everywhere in the universe , and His Spirit follows us have been ever we flow. don't be disillusioned while peoples reaction is adverse , or in hassle-free terms in accordance with their very own ideals.God created each little thing for the satisfaction in mankind , and the marriage is a results of His advent , while guy and female substitute into one in Jesus Christ our lord. Wishing you all the main suitable and pray that God will bless you and your bride to be.
2016-09-29 13:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by ilsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your parents know your beliefs? If not and you want to press this as an issue, now would be the time to tell them. Personally, my lover and I are completely agnostic, but will be having the church wedding anways. It's not such a big part of our lives that upsetting my religious parents is worth it. I let them be happy and who cares if there's a little talk about god at our wedding? It doesn't offend me nearly as much as it would hurt my parents.
2007-02-23 18:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a garden wedding outdoors or at a park gazebo. Instead of a minister...have the town mayor or a justice of the peace to perform the ceremony. This is completely legal, and also very nice
2007-02-23 18:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋