what can u do to get ur boyfriends ex to stop stocking him and callim him and everything?

Question

well my boyfriends ex is calling him and IM him again after he ignored her and she stoped talkiing to him for the longest time and now she is back at stocking him again and calling and everything what can u do to get her to leave him alone and to lose his number and name

SHe lives far away from us but he has told her to stop calling him and stop stocking him but she doesnt listen sh ehas been doing this for about 2 years now

SHe lives far away from us but he has told her to stop calling him and stop stocking him but she doesnt listen sh ehas been doing this for about 2 years now

and they never meet face to face they just dated over the internet and they have been broke up for a long time and she knows he is with me but she dont liek that Idea and she wants him to be with her and he dont want ot be with her he is happy with me and dont want her and i dont knwo how to get her to leave him alone it just bothers me knowing that she is trying to get him back and that my biggest fear right now is losing him i knwo i wont lose him to her but its still my biggest fear

the problem is i cnat answer his phone when she calls him b/c im not there he lives 334 miles from me and i see him oncea month or so so ya its not that easy for me to answer it and tell her to stop calling b/c she isnt goign to be able to talk to him if i was there and she called i would answer it but im not

Answer 1

This is a violation of some privacy laws, I'm not exactly sure which, but it's a safe bet to threaten her, your boyfriend can do it for you or let you do it, and if she doesn't stop you can contact the police about it.

You have to take these stocking things seriously, they can become obsessive and that can't ever be good and if she's got a mental disorder (improbable, but you never know) it could end it deaths or horrible things. But I doubt that, it's just happens in the past.

That's your best bet is to threaten, give her a week to a month, then set the police on her to permanent stop her from calling him.

If worst comes to worst, your boyfriend can get a new phone number. If she stocks his house, the police will definately take care of that, without a doubt.

Answer 2

Well first off you would have to make sure he's not calling or IMing her (ever)(especially when you're not around because guys have the tendency to not tell the whole truth),because if he's giving her any kind of hope that he still has a pinch of interest in her...the "stalking" will continue.I suggest you tell him to change his number ,and if it's his house phone for him to get an unlisted number so that way they'll be no way for her to find his number.As far as her IMing him....if he has yahoo...he can have the setting that only allows the people on your messenger list to IM you.To have that setting in affect.Go to "messenger" and then choose "preferences".If he doesn't want to do that...u should make sure he's really being "stalked". and that it's not something he's just telling you.

Answer 3

Generally, there are two types of stalkers: ones that stalk you because they miss you but when they find someone new they will leave you alone and ones that stalk for the thrill of stalking. The problem is that you never know which is which until it is too late! My suggestion is for you to try to avoid him at all costs. As suggested earlier, tell everyone you know that you think he is a danger to you! The more people know, the better. Make it known to your friends that you are no longer interested in him. The word will eventually spread to him and hopefully he will leave you alone. If need be, you may have to distance yourself from certain people, especially mutual friends you and he may have had. If all else fails and he is still stalking you, file a restraining order with your local police department and ask them for more tips on how you can feel safer. Good luck!

Answer 4

Are you absolutely sure that he is telling her not to call in front of you and talking nicely to her when your not around? I've always heard that in dealing with a stalker you need to cut off talking to them, IM them, don't give them the slightest time of day at all. The one time that you talk to them even to say, "Stop calling me," Is enough positive reinforcement for them to keep calling and calling over and over just for the hope that they can hear your voice one more time, weather it is nice or angery towards them. Another thing that you may be able to do is get a restraining order. Bring your phone bill into the judge and tell him the date you asked her to stop calling and then show him how many times she has called since then. That way everytime that she calls you can prosecute her with the law! She'll learn quick that if she wants to stay out of jail she better stop calling!!!

Answer 5

without taking the time to check your questions-sounds like there is more involved than meets the eye-I am born a Jew and asked Jesus into my heart to forgive my sins and help me do better and be my best friend. If this was the case with her-she would be happy in heart-and do right. a few ?'s -was she and or you intimate with the b/f? if so you have soul ties-meaning in a sense she is married to him and he is living in fornication adultry now with you.

another aspect-it takes two-ignore isnt sufficient-if you break a relationship because the other party cheated on you-by showing emotions that are ment for you and marriage-then its a done deal-and he didnt try to block her-and evidently he is giving her hope - for when you two end -and without Jesus in your life-that is a done deal to-because something has to be your god-to worship-and if it isnt the God of heaven your soul will be empty still.

praying for you--and for him too--and for that other one too-the best for all of you

Answer 6

Oh sweety he has to be the one to just tell her whats up....and if you are able.....i had to do this...let her know when she calls his phone and you answer whats up ya know the situation with the 2 of you and / or find her where ever she is and well ya know let her in on the fact that he is with you and if that doesnt work well honey slap her around if you can!!! = )

Answer 7

Girl is not what u can do cause u can't do anything is what he must do.He can put a restraining oder against her or he can let u answer the phone whenever she phones him.

Answer 8

Stalking is a crime in most places so maybe she needs to be reminded of that. He should IM her saying "Stop stalking me or I'll call the poilce!"

Answer 9

ohkay tell him to get a new number and a new name..

But make sure that his friends dont really have contact with her,, or just tell him to tell his friends dont give out his number


cuz if someone does give out his number without his permission, you can call the cops

Believe meh i know =]

Answer 10

He has to be the one to step up and tell her to back off. He could change his number and get a new screen name if it is truly bothering either him or you that much.
-NmD!