my best freind already has a girlfreind and we have been together before im stuck with mixed feelings between my boyfriend and my best freind who is also my ex
2007-02-23 17:49:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What to do? Decide as soon as you can.
Think of the reasons why you broke up with your ex/bestfriend. Is it worth it to try again to be with him, pry him from his girlfriend, and ruin what potential with your boyfriend?
But yet again, I think that if you want to be with your bestfriend, you need to keep yourself free and stay his very best friend, so that when he breaks up with his girlfriend, you will be the girl there for him to help him from his break up, etc, and then you will have a chance to be with him again.
But it is my thought that boyfriend/girlfriend is not a very strong committment. Fiance, maybe, but not boyfriend/girlfriend. So I would perhaps flirt with your best friend again, see if he sends back the same signal, write him cute notes, send him small presents, or just do small favors for him, stuff to make him notice that you still care about him.
Maybe he will start thinking of you in that way again, talk to you about it, then both of you can break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend, then start up another relationship.
But keep what's in best interest for you. Is the boyfriend of yours very possessive? Will it be hard on him for breaking up with him/ flirting with another guy? Some guys take the girlfriend thing to death, really.
But if he's a laidback guy, then definately go with my advice to flirt with your best friend again, even kiss if you feel like it, to gain his heart back before you risk breaking the relatinoships you both have right now.
If you find that the problem that put you two apart still exists, I'd say taht you'd probably be better off staying with your boyfriend.
2007-02-23 17:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by natalia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember what is was that broke you two in the first place. My ex fiance is still my best friend but the things that happened with us were he was too young to be in a serious relationship the first break up and the second time he broke up with me he went away to college and the long distance relationship he couldn't handle even though I could then I broke up with him the third and final time by leaving him to marry someone else 19 days before we were to get married. BUT it took a few years and all was forgiven and he's still my best friend because no one knows more about me. He even approves of my new husband.And my husband approves of him too and if he didn't I wouldn't have stayed with my husband.It was after I got divorced he contacted me. My ex-husband I have nothing to do with.
2007-02-23 18:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same situation for years. Unless you and the best friend are absolutely sure you're ready for a relationship again, stick with your boyfriend. When the time is right, you'll both know.
Silver lining-- After years of hidden love, my best friend and I got engaged. It can happen!
2007-02-23 17:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Frenzy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh no this cant end badly .Bet you see him happy with other girl huh your thinking what is he happy with her why wasnt he this happy with me ? you got a boyfriend he should be your new best friend cut loose the old it ended for a reason remeber
2007-02-23 17:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dang.
tough situation
You need to talk to your best friend.
Show Him you still have feelings for him
But the bad thing is you both are in relationships
i would say that you guys go out for lunch or sumthing
and talk without your boyfriend && his girlfriend there.
2007-02-23 17:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Babyloveex3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say leave them both alone and find love some were else! cause, not only are you going to be hurt in the long run! others are likely going to be hurt due to your actions
2007-02-23 18:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to break it off with your boy friend and go after your best friend. i didn't go after it and now i'm not with the one. it's past and i missed. you get one shot at this so make it a good one.
2007-02-23 17:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Luis LU 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confront your friend and let him know how you feel
2007-02-23 17:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cromag 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋