I am catholic, not church going; however, it would comfort me to have my priest marry us. My bf does not belong to a religion, he would not mind being married in church (I know though with the catholic church you have to take classes)....
2007-02-23 17:46:37 · 6 answers · asked by avechm 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talk to your priest, he's the only one that can determine what he thinks is ethical or not. If you ask me I don't see why he couldn't or wouldn't. My cousin and his live-in girlfriend wanted to get married by a catholic priest (they are both catholic) and in a catholic church. That certain priest said I cannot marry you like you want in a year because you already living together and living in sin. I will marry you now in a small ceremony and then we can do your big wedding in a year like you want to, if everything goes okay during the first year of your marriage! True story!
2007-02-23 17:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, some misinformation above --- let's get this all straightened out, shall we? 1. Your fiance can get dispensation to marry in a different Christian religious ceremony. However, it has to be a church that's recognized by the Catholic Church, and you said you were non-denominational. That might be tricky, especially if you go to a non-denominational church that has little history or documentation of theology. It might even go so far as requiring your pastor to sit down with your fiance's bishop before dispensation is granted. 2. The reason why Catholics are careful about marriage is because we consider Matrimony to be a Sacrament (like baptism), a means by which God delivers grace to us. In other words, for Catholics, marriage isn't just a two-way contract between man and woman, it's a three-way covenant between man, woman and God. Which is way cool if you think about it. Anyway, because God is a party to the covenant, there is careful theological preparation of the couple (as well as the practical premarital stuff), and the ceremony must include the Lord...which for Catholics means having the ceremony in the Church, where the Lord is physically present via the Eucharist. Now, if you can see the value of this, it would make sense for the two of you to marry in your fiance's Catholic Church. If not, as I said in #1, he can probably get dispensation to marry you in your church. 3. A Catholic person doesn't lose their faith by marrying outside of their religion. 4. A Catholic person *can* fall out of Communion with the Catholic Church by marrying a person outside of the Catholic faith without dispensation. This would mean that he could no longer receive any of the Sacraments until the marriage is convalidated. Convalidation means the marriage is blessed by the Catholic Church after the fact. It's much easier and more responsible to get dispensation in advance. 5. Apart from the wedding, you two will have many more issues -- most of them far more serious than garden settings -- regarding how faith will work in your marriage, particularly in regards to birth control and parenting. A Catholic priest is likely to be far more prepared to counsel the two of you in this mixed-marriage than your non-denominational pastor, so even if you do marry in the rose garden with your pastor, you should probably opt for some sessions with the priest on top of it. 6. As somebody mentioned above, you could do both. You can go through the Catholic premarital prep, have a very small Catholic wedding (just witnesses & the priest) and then later on in the same day or on the next day, have your flower garden wedding. 7. It is true that Catholic priests cannot marry in a ceremony that is outside of the Church (though they can present the Marriage rite in outdoor settings that are sanctioned by the Church). 8. It is NOT true that non-Catholic spouses have to promise to raise the children Catholic. The Catholic spouse has to promise to raise the kids Catholic. The non-Catholic spouse only has to agree to let that happen -- they are supposed to promise they won't get in the way of it or teach the children that Catholicism is wrong.
2016-05-24 04:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order to be married by a catholic priest u one person needs to have made there first communion and comfirmation.
2007-02-23 19:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea.. if you want to be married in the Catholic faith, your soon to be husband has to take RCIA, the christian rite of admission.
Its just so your husband can fully appreciate your faith, since the Catholic church wants couples to be able to live their faith...
2007-02-23 18:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by free_the_frenchfries 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how liberal your church is. Why not ask him?
2007-02-23 17:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Robsthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every thing is possible.
2007-02-23 18:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Armin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋