A cure for low self esteem?

Question

I feel so ugly every time I look in the mirror. It's rare that I find myself pretty or attractive. My friends tell me I'm beautiful, but I can never believe them because all I see is my horrible flaws.
I've tried so hard to raise my self esteem, but it never works out. Everytime I look at one of my friends I feel so depressed that I'm not as pretty or as good as them.
Please help!

Answer 1

any sort of depression can be tide over by faith in GOD and sincere prayer.

Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation

Answer 2

The best way to feel good about yourself, is to become
more interested in the concerns and needs of others above
those of yourself.

Involvement with other people, the community, the church
or whatever allows you as a person to become the
person you were intended to be. It allows the talents
and abilities and inward goodness that you have to
shine through.

"Beauty is as Beauty does"...my grandmother used to
say. If you are trying to build your ego based on what you
see in a mirror, then you're on the wrong track. Practically
all the "beautiful" Hollywood starlets ALL are insecure and
have low self esteem.

It is what's on the inside that counts...not so much how
perfect you look. Believe me...it's true. You may not
think so, but it is true.

I always wanted to be tall and be a high-scorer in basket ball.
However, I'm short.. but turns out I became a starter..why?
Not because I could dunk, rebound, or anything...but because
I could get the ball to others inside, steal the ball, score three pointers.

Appreciate yourself for what abilities and good qualities that
you do have. They will more than make up for those that
you may be lacking in.

Try it and lots of luck

Answer 3

Hey Kid! Your first few sentences tells me that for some other reason,somewhere along in your early growth stages, perhaps another person whom you are fond of (a family member) had said something you may have taken out of context.
Do not say those things about yourself as they will be ingrained into your psyche, you will go through the rest of your life believing it. So it is to your well being that you stop making this your life issue. Has anyone ever told you or read to you the story of the ugly duckling?
Your query reads that you are in your youth and are still growing, do not allow vanity stop you from living an equalized life.
Please do what some of the other answerers suggest, go and stand before that mirror and forgive yourself for thinking that about you and start saying the positive self suggested remarks (you do not need to do this in front of a mirror). Make this a daily ritual for at least 30 days, with each day finding that something cute or wonderful, that smile that will make day out of someones night. You are different from all other people. Allow time to take its course. And nevermore say anything bad to yourself. Have the Best of life, You really are beautiful.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I have always felt the same way you do. My friend once told me you need to learn to except a compliment when you get one, because I'd always infatically deny their compliment. So I started saying thank you to people instead of arguing with them, then I started looking in the mirror and trying to see what they saw in me, and eventually when I looked in the mirror I did see a beauiful person, the same beauiful person my friends had always told me I was. I still see the flaws, but now I know I can do things to change them, but reguardless I am still beautiful the way I am. :) and most important if you have true beauty on the inside then that matters more then any of the people you think are so georgous. because I have met some very attractive people, who after talking to them I couldn't stand and I'm not the only one who didn't like them either. They were completely ugly because of who they were on the inside. So don't ever lose the person you are on the inside, its one of the reasons your friends love you so much :)

Answer 5

You know what? We have all felt that way at some time in our lives. Its okay. If your friends say youre beautiful you probably are but wont see it till this mood or whatever goes away.
Do something that makes you proud of yourself. For me its cleaning something I've been putting off or getting a great work out. Then when I look in the mirror I'm kind of happy to see myself!

In the bible, one of my favorite verses is "This too shall pass" It will.

Answer 6

It is typical for young teens to feel inferior. Your friends are no better than you. You are only kinder to them and forgive them their flaws, but don't give yourself a break. Every day this week, I want you write down 5 good and honest things about yourself. They can be physical (cute nose, nice hair), mental (smart, good at math), emotional (kind and caring to others), etc. By the end of the week, your list will be long. Tuck it in your bureau drawer and take a peek at it when your feeling low.

Answer 7

Dont worry, Theres always someone out there that will find you hot. Its important to make an effort on your looks and make the best of yourself. As a man I find it attractive if someone has a least gone to the effort it shows you are in control of your life.
Dont get down over it it will show on the outside , Just enjoy life and someone will come along trust me.

Answer 8

I use to be in a horrible depression too. I know that this is going to be hard to do but walk right back to that mirror look at yourself and say I love myself. If you are not able to do that and mean it than you obviously aren't willing to listen to your friends,,,, How about your therepist. We are all beautiful and special people in are own way. We all have to take the path that challenges ourselves so that way we are able to see for ourselves our strenghs

Answer 9

I've struggled with this through the years too, and the best thing I think is to realise all the good things you do with your life, does it really matter what you think you look like? You could volunteer doing community service and when you see the people that you help and how thankful they are then you'll realise that you really do matter and that you are making a difference.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry: I can see your beautiful just by your writing, beauty on the inside is so much more radiant than any that's skin deep.

Find someone with a personality that matches well with your's. You will know when you find him, you will always feel beautiful when your around him; also quit being so tough on yourself.